When it came to love, our grand parents showed us how to make it last. How long did your grand parents stay together? If your answer is 50, 60, or 70 years, you’re right!
Now, scroll through your Facebook. How many people actually have a relationship surviving more than 5 years? Heck, how many relationships last longer than 6 months? Now a days people get mad over petty things, like someone messaged your other half, they stared at someone too long, you don’t get your way. I’m sorry to tell all of those who think relationships are perfect, but you’re in for a lot of DISAPPOINTMENT.
Finding your soulmate will not be perfect. It isn’t always falling asleep holding one another, cooking and cleaning and having everything in tip-top shape, or even having “adulting” down with your other half. It isn’t always getting your way, or finding the perfect compromise. It isn’t even about liking your soulmate all the time!
So what then, you may ask, was our grandparents secret?? They stuck together through it all! They fought over what was for dinner, baby names, how to pay bills, even the right way to clean dishes! Some of that may seem minor, but it isn’t. As my best friend's father once said, "Once you are married, everything changes." Working through your problems together is what makes things work. You won’t always get things right the first time around, but when you do, it only makes things all the more worth it.
One of the most influential couples that could have shown me this would be my best friends mother and father. Money gets tight, the kids need a million and one things for mom to find for them and dad to teach them. The house isn’t always clean and dinner is at ten o’clock because no one can decide what they want to eat. (which not every will always agree on!) Dishes are piled high and bills need paying. The greatest thing anyone could hand down to their children is showing them how to make that love survive. My best friend's parents always have their hands full, their house full, and their to-do list a mile long! It doesn’t mean the fridge is always full and neither are their wallets. They take things one step at a time They try to raise their kids up in a manner where their kids will be adults who will do everything for their children just as their parents did for them.
Now, I couldn’t be anymore excited for my best friends mother and father to become my in-laws. To know that my soulmate has grown up seeing his parents go through their best, their worst, their trying and their success, only for their love to stay strong through out it all, it’s things like that which make me excited to see what the future has in store!
Now think back for a second, and ask yourself this. Would you allow your soulmate and better half to escape through your fingers for something petty, something you could have solved by working through It? It doesn’t matter age, sex, religion, or hair color! What matters is the love you have for that person. The love which you share, its stronger than anything you’re going through. Times are hard, but losing the one you love? Its harder.
