Girl,
Shew, are you in for a whole new world. While these next few weeks, months, or years may be tough, they are going to be oh so worth it. I've got a few do's and don'ts for ya.
DO: MAKE FRIENDS. I cannot stress this enough. They are going to be your life line. There is nothing better than being able to call up your girls to lean on when you're missing your boy. They will make you laugh, bring all the food, and make you even forget you were sad in the first place.
DON'T: Abandon every friend you've ever known to only talk to your boyfriend. Do you know how boring y'alls conversation is gonna be if you do that??? That's a sinking ship setting sail right there. Be your own person. Have your own life!
DO: Ask them about their day and mean it. When you're in a long distance relationship, physical touch and quality time are going to be hard to come by, so make the most out of your time on the phone and really listen to them, and pour into them.
DON'T: Call them only to play on your phone, be distracted, or simply not care what they have to say. Not only are they gonna be upset, but your relationship is not gonna grow at all if all you do is listen to each other breathe.
DO: Trust him when you're not with him. If you don't trust him, then why the heck are you dating him anyways???
DON'T: Get jealous over everything. This will make you miserable if all you can think about is that one girl that was also in the room with 20 other guys. It's gonna be fine, he is dating you.
DO: try to set a time to talk. Sometimes your schedule gets whack, and it's really hard to talk on the phone, so a simple text that says "hey I'm swamped, can we talk for a good hour or two tomorrow?" is the perfect thing to say.
DON'T: try to talk every single day for 8 hours. Eventually, it will not happen, and you will be upset.
I have a few more things that I love to do for my boyfriend that I think help a lot:
Send him care packages with his favorite food or candy, a movie or book, a sweet card, socks, or something he enjoys just to let him know you were thinking of him. Always have something to look forward to! I have a countdown app on my phone for the next time we will be together, and seeing it declining helps a lot. Finally, the two biggest things I could tell you: communicate and pray. You have to let your significant other know how you feel. This is true for every relationship ever. You have to communicate when you're upset or something is on your mind so that you're both on the same page. You will be so much stronger for it. Praying is such a powerful thing. My boyfriend is at the Air Force Academy in Colorado, and I am in nursing school so prayers are constantly being said for each other. Also just praying together over the phone is such a comforting thing if you really miss each other.
I won't lie, it is so hard sometimes. All you want is to be held and loved, but they're so far away. Just remember, you're doing this because you love them.
Love, a girl in a long distance relationship too.
