If I asked you “Who is important to you?” how many people would you list before you said yourself?

One of the hardest facts you’re going to face in this life is that you’re alone. I don’t mean that in a negative way because it’s not a negative thing –– it’s a fact. No one but you lives in your head. From the day you’re born to the day you die, no one is with you in your head. While you may live the fantastic life of having a thousand support systems, you are still alone.

This isn’t a depressing fact either. If anything, it’s the fact that should change the way you view the world. At the end of the day, all you’ve got is yourself. You are not promised anything in this life except the second you’re existing in. People, places and things are going to come and go, but you will never get to leave yourself.

So this leads to the question again: Who is important to you? Your answer should be “myself.”

You have to be your most important person. There’s no give and take in that.

I know you know people who give their all to everyone ––friends, significant others, parents, children–– but when do you witness them doing any kind of self-care? How many times have you watched someone make a choice based on how it would impact someone else, but not themselves?

This doesn’t have to be a selfish way of existing. It isn’t that hard to be your most important person and still care for people in your life. It comes down to continual self-care and weighing most of your decisions on your scale.

Think about the people you surround yourself with. Do they care about you caring about yourself?

Do you make sure your friends care about themselves?

Do not be afraid to walk away from people who radiate negativeness and make you feel hard to love for loving yourself more. Being able to love yourself more doesn’t mean you love the people in your life any less, it just means you pick yourself as number one. . . and that's a good thing.

Being your most important person means you’re much less likely to get severely hurt by people, places, and things because even if these things leave you, you still have yourself, and you’re a whole being without needing anyone or anything else.

I’m not saying this means you won’t get hurt, but I can promise it’ll hurt less. Things may fall away from you, but if you’re the thing you care about the most in the entire world, no one can take that from you.

Love unconditionally and with an open heart, but make sure you love yourself above all else.

So, Who is your most important person?