Ever wonder why you're not receiving the love and affection from your loved ones the way you give it to them? I think we all do.
Well, I’m here to give you the answer (kinda), love language. Love language is the way one likes to give love and the way they like to receive or experience love.
Love language does not only apply to your significant others or spouses but for all relationships in your life. Love is a tough thing to receive and express, whether we like it or not, a huge struggle growing up is undeniably the communication with the ones we love.
Many articles I’ve read and tests I’ve taken have helped me establish my own personal love language, which I think is very important, but I have also come to the realization that it’s even more important to understand the love language of others.
A personal struggle of mine has always been not understanding why the things I do for others are not always reciprocated, but I was looking at everything at the wrong angle. Just because I am not receiving love through the ways I give love does not mean I am not receiving love at all.
Knowing your own love language is crucial but understanding someone else's will make you appreciate the love that much more.
Love language comes in five different forms: words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, physical touch and receiving gifts.
Each of these languages is pretty self-explanatory and all sound really great to give and receive but ideally we appreciate and express specifically more of two of these languages.
After taking my first test I received words of affirmation and acts of service as my primary love languages. This really hit me because though I have always noticed that I do these things nonchalantly they are also the way I want to receive love, which is something I’ve never really thought about.
It made me realize all the little things I do for others in these languages and really helped me establish that when I do not always receive these things in return I tend to feel unloved.
A few of my friends took this exact test and received different answers than me and after seeing and understanding that just because they may not always do the things I do for them does not mean they are not showing me love. All people are diverse and unique for a reason, they may appreciate other forms of love and deliver that as their own personal love language.
I think we take the word love for granted and jump to conclusions with our friends and family when we feel as if they are not giving us affection when really they are but we're not really listening or really noticing their own ways of perceiving love.
Love language is something that is so important to establish in yourself and in others for the sake of feeling better about yourself. This is something that’s not harped on very often but is something that needs to be given more attention to.
If you come to a realization between you and your individual relationships love language you will have a better understanding of love and a better feeling of life.
I believe this is a crucial thing while adulting, especially for a college girl like myself, because sometimes we have bad days and feel alone when we have to remember that love is everywhere, in so many different forms that we are blinded by because we only think of our own.
Please take a little time after reading this and take a quick quiz to establish you love language and the understanding of it all because I promise it will give you a whole new perspective on yourself, your love and the love all around you.
