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Why 'Quality Over Quantity' With Friendships Is Important

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Why 'Quality Over Quantity' With Friendships Is Important
Danielle Burke

February is International Friendship Month, which really got me thinking.

It made me remember a lot of things about myself and my friendships, especially my viewpoints on them, past and present.

When I was younger, I thought you had to have a ton of friends. You had to have a huge friend group. You had to have ten bridesmaids at your wedding.

I couldn't have been more wrong.

Growing up, I always had friends, obviously. But I wanted more.

I always wanted more people to invite to my birthday parties. I wanted more people to talk to on AIM. I wanted more people on my top friends list on Facebook.

All I could think about was more.

But when I got to high school, there were times when I felt like I had no friends. There were times when the friends I had didn't seem to be there for me. There were times when my friends betrayed me and I was completely devastated.

Then I realized something.

It's not the number of friends you have. It's the quality of the friends you have.

I didn't have to keep in touch with shitty high school friends. I didn't have to continue to be friends with the person from middle school who never had my back.

I just had to find the people who supported me. The people who loved and cared about me. The people who wanted me to succeed but were always there to catch me when I fell.

That's what I did and continue to do.

I kept friends from elementary, middle, and high school, but I've made amazing friends in college. I even made a great friend at my internship.

It's crazy.

Every day, I'm reminded that I may only have a small group of friends. I'm never going to have ten bridesmaids. I'm never going to have a birthday dinner with more than ten friends.

But that's okay.

I have amazing friends who celebrate all my accomplishments with me, pick me up when I feel like I've completely failed, and call me out on all my bullshit.

Most importantly, they are friends who somehow manage to know me, almost better than I know myself.

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