It's easy to get stuck on imperfections, especially if it's something as embarrassing as acne scars. They say scars take away from your physical appearance. I have even caught myself saying that I am ugly because of the scars I have on my face. But, is it really true to say that a woman is ugly just because she has scars?

I read about a woman on a message board who admitted that she had ice pick scarring on her face. She said that she was pretty except for her scars. Her boyfriend, whom had considered her beautiful until he saw her in natural sunlight, dumped her because of her facial imperfections.

Now, I'm not claiming all men as jerks here, but shame on him. He completely dismissed real, human qualities that she had like her intelligence and kindness. This was a woman who loved working with the elderly, and who was working on getting her Master's Degree in nursing.

Sure, I've seen articles that say that men prefer more naturally beautiful women, and that a woman shouldn't need makeup to be beautiful. Still, the opinion of a guy should never be the ultimate factor in deciding who you are or how you look. If a guy is dating you solely for your beauty, then he's probably not actually invested in who you are as a person.

Maybe it is old news, but even the gorgeous women in Hollywood have suffered from their own skin problems.

Actress Megan Fox had it pretty bad when it comes to acne and acne scarring. Fox has even admitted to disliking certain things about her appearance, and it is debated whether or not she has gotten plastic surgery. That's not really my business. A tabloid or online article are never guaranteed sources for information on people, especially when it comes to celebrities. However, the important thing to keep in mind is that despite her scars, Megan Fox is still considered one of the most attractive women in Hollywood.

I wish I could say that accepting yourself as you are is an easy thing to do. The truth is, self-confidence is something that needs to be built. And I'm not talking about the "Fake it till you make it" approach because that's not genuine confidence. I believe that we need to begin dropping all pretenses and just saying to one another, "I am insecure about x, y and z."

We live in a culture where we're told that insecurity is ugly and unattractive, and yes, I understand the social pressures; but the fact is—everyone is insecure about something. And shoving our insecurities into the ground is no way to deal with them.

A better way to be confident is to acknowledge that you and others struggle with insecurities and imperfections. For example, one of the ways in which I've started to cope with my own scars is by taking better care of my skin, and by considering treatment for my scars. But the first step is to admit those insecurities to yourself and then, if you can, begin the move toward self-improvement.