I'm A Woman And I'm Allowed To Have Standards
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I'm A Woman And I'm Allowed To Have Standards

How pretty I am or my body type shouldn't make me have to lower my standards.

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I'm A Woman And I'm Allowed To Have Standards
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The one thing that I continue to be baffled by is that some boys (not men) seem to think women can’t have standards. I’ve been seeing boys post things bashing women *for insert ridiculous reason* because those women rejected them. There was just one status I saw that really pushed me over the edge.

This boy posted an angry status because a girl told him that she prefers to date guys who are taller her. He didn’t just call her a girl. He called her a fat girl. He immediately degraded her by bringing her weight into the picture just because she said she prefers tall guys.

I have news for you, boys. We are allowed to have standards. Get over it.

Okay, so please tell me why this girl isn’t allowed to have standards because she’s overweight? So, basically what you’re saying is that if a girl is overweight, too skinny or “ugly” that she isn’t allowed to have standards? That she should just sweep up the first guy who is interested in her because she’s just so fat or ugly that she’ll never find another guy?

Well, as a fat girl, I completely reject this statement. I am way more than just my body weight. I’m intelligent (check that 3.96 GPA, bigot), funny, witty, thoughtful, kind and creative just like hundreds of thousands of other women. Just because I’m overweight doesn’t mean that all those other traits just disappear. I can always lose weight, but you can’t lose that crappy sense of entitlement.

If I followed that logic, I would have ended up with a player who just wanted to use me for sex. He acted like he wanted to be in a relationship, but in reality, he just wanted to get some. I didn’t want that at all. So just because I’m chubby I should have settled for that? As a human being, I think I deserve better than that if I want better than that.

Guess what? I got better than that. I kept my standards and my preferences. I love tall boys who are smart, kind, sporty and funny. That description fits my boyfriend to a T. Not only that, but he has even more traits that make me love him.

I just don’t understand why it is so taboo for a girl to state her preferences and stick to them. One of my best friends is about 5’ 8” (or so) and only likes to date tall guys. Why? She doesn’t want to feel like a towering giant over her boyfriend. Why is it so bad that she wants to feel comfortable about her height? Last time I checked, that wasn’t such a bad thing.

I’m not saying women should limit themselves and only accept those qualities, but if it is a quality you cannot get over (height, intelligence, etc.) you’re allowed to stick to it. If you are that dead set on a quality, you aren’t going to be able to look past it. You’re going to spend all your time wishing that person had that quality, so why waste your time or theirs?

Women are allowed to have standards and boys (not men…men accept) need to get over it. Men, you’re allowed to have standards too and any girl who doesn’t accept that needs to get over it. Regardless of your sex, sexual preference or skin color, you’re allowed to have standards and preferences. If you don’t fit someone’s standards/preferences, move on. You’ll find someone better and so will they. Love is about compatibility and if you aren’t compatible, it just isn’t going to happen.

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