I'm A Republican And That's Okay

I'm A Republican And That's Okay

Your political party might be different than mine.. But that's okay.
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If we were to think about life even just 10 years ago, I bet many of us would remember the days that politics weren't really spoken about. A lot of us were probably raised with the same standards; don't talk about politics and religion. Hell, I use to waitress and bar-tend and that is the unspoken rule of the bar. Don't talk about politics or religion, especially when alcohol is involved. As my dad always told me, you're not going to change their opinion, and they're not going to change yours.

Fast forwards 10 years, you now know everyone and their mothers political opinion. You can't get on Facebook for one day without a political post. Just about everything on the TV mentions politics in some form or fashion. Talking about politics has become the new social norm. Unfortunately, bullying has also become the new social norm. You're no longer allowed to have differing opinions. And this comes from both sides of the political spectrum. I've seen it from the extreme left as well as the extreme right.

Free speech for all!

.....Except for those who disagree with me!

Now, what stereotypes do you associate with those in the Republican party? What are the usual go-to's?

Racist.
Homophobic.
Islamophobic.
Any other word that ends in 'ophobic'...
Misogynistic.
War-Hungry.






And so on and so forth.

Well, I'm here to say, for those of you who are willing to listen, we're not any of those things. Do those people out there exist? Absolutely. But they're not limited to the republican party, or even the democratic party. There are assholes everywhere. On both sides.

But just because I'm a registered Republican, doesn't mean I'm any of those things. But I will tell you what I am. I am a young woman, mother and student who was raised by amazing parents who taught me the importance in respecting everyone. No matter their race, or their beliefs.

I was raised to treat everyone as the human beings that they are, because while we may not all have the same beliefs, we're all still human beings. Going day by day trying to figure out life and do what's best for our loved ones. We're not all going to do it the same way, and that's okay. We're not all going to vote for the same people, and that's also okay.

We can have different views. But just because we have different views, doesn't make me any of those things you assume that I am. You probably saw the title and instantly thought about how racist I must be. Or how I hate women. Or how I'm just probably so full of hate.

But I'm not.

I'm full of love. As a new mother especially, I'm full of a love I've never felt before. I don't hate anyone (except the San Fransisco Giants but that's just because I was #RaisedRoyal and I'm also #StillBitter).

I want what's best for most importantly my son, my family, my friends. But also for you, whoever reads this.. No matter your views, I value your safety and your future. Because at the end of the day, we're all playing for the same team. No matter who you are, what you believe, who you love; I will always treat you with respect unless you disrespect me.

I'm no longer ashamed of saying I am a republican. Because I'm confident in the values I was raised with. I'm confident in the respectful, loving person I am growing up to be and will raise my son to be. And because quite frankly, republicans aren't the ones out destroying buildings and assaulting people in alleged, 'protests' which are actually 'riots'.

I'm a republican and that's okay.
Maybe you're a democrat.. and that's okay.
Maybe you're an independent.. really, that's okay.

As long as you treat everyone with love and respect no matter their differences?


It's okay.





































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No, I Don't Have To Tell You I'm Trans Before Dating You

Demanding trans people come out to potential partners is transphobic.
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In 2014, Jennifer Laude, a 26-year-old Filipina woman, was brutally murdered after having sex with a U.S. marine. The marine in question, Joseph Scott Pemberton, strangled her until she was unconscious and then proceeded to drown her in a toilet bowl.

Understandably, this crime triggered a lot of outrage. But while some were outraged over the horrific nature of the crime, many others were outraged by a different detail in the story. That was because Jennifer Laude had done the unspeakable. She was a trans woman and had not disclosed that information before having sex with Pemberton. So in the minds of many cis people, her death was the price she paid for not disclosing her trans status. Here are some of the comments on CNN's Facebook page when the story broke.

As a trans person, I run into this attitude all the time. I constantly hear cis people raging about how a trans person is "lying" if they don't come out to a potential partner before dating them. Pemberton himself claimed that he felt like he was "raped" because Laude did not come out to him. Even cis people that fashion themselves as "allies" tend to feel similar.

Their argument is that they aren't not attracted to trans people, so they should have a right to know if a potential partner is trans before dating them. These people view transness as a mere physical quality that they just aren't attracted to.

The issue with this logic is that the person in question is obviously attracted to trans people, or else they wouldn't be worried about accidentally going out with one. So these people aren't attracted to trans people because of some physical quality, they aren't attracted to trans people because they are disgusted by the very idea of transness.

Disgust towards trans people is ingrained in all of us from a very early age. The gender binary forms the basis of European societies. It establishes that there are men and there are women, and each has a specific role. For the gender binary to have power, it has to be rigid and inflexible. Thus, from the day we are born, we are taught to believe in a very static and strict form of gender. We learn that if you have a penis, you are a man, and if you have a vagina, you are a woman. Trans people are walking refutations of this concept of gender. Our very existence threatens to undermine the gender binary itself. And for that, we are constantly demonized. For example, trans people, mainly women of color, continue to be slaughtered in droves for being trans.

The justification of transphobic oppression is often that transness is inherently disgusting. For example, the "trans panic" defense still exists to this day. This defense involves the defendant asking for a lesser sentence after killing a trans person because they contend that when they found out the victim was trans, they freaked out and couldn't control themselves. This defense is still legal in every state but California.

And our culture constantly reinforces the notion that transness is undesirable. For example, there is the common trope in fictional media in which a male protagonist is "tricked" into sleeping with a trans woman. The character's disgust after finding out is often used as a punchline.

Thus, not being attracted to trans people is deeply transphobic. The entire notion that someone isn't attracted to a group of very physically diverse group of people because they are trans is built on fear and disgust of trans people. None of this means it is transphobic to not be attracted to individual trans people. Nor is it transphobic to not be attracted to specific genitals. But it is transphobic to claim to not be attracted to all trans, people. For example, there is a difference between saying you won't go out with someone for having a penis and saying you won't go out with someone because they're trans.

So when a cis person argues that a trans person has an obligation to come out to someone before dating them, they are saying trans people have an obligation to accommodate their transphobia. Plus, claiming that trans people are obligated to come out reinforces the idea that not being attracted to trans people is reasonable. But as I've pointed out, not being attracted to trans people supports the idea that transness is disgusting which is the basis for transphobic oppression.

The one scenario in which I would say a trans person should disclose their trans status is if they are going to have sex with someone and are unsure if their partner is attracted to whatever genitals they may have. In that case, I think it's courteous for a trans person to come out to avoid any awkwardness during sex. But even then, a trans person isn't "lying" if they don't come out and their partner is certainly not being "raped."

It is easy to look at the story of Jennifer Laude and claim that her death was due to the actions of one bigot. But it's more complicated than that. Pemberton was the product of a society that told him that disgust towards trans people was reasonable and natural. So when he found out that he accidentally slept with a trans woman, he killed her.

Every single cis person that says that trans people have to come out because they aren't attracted to trans people feeds into the system that caused Jennifer Laude's death. And until those cis people acknowledge their complicity in that system, there will only be more like Jennifer Laude.

SEE ALSO: Yes, You Absolutely Need To Tell Someone You're Trans Before Dating

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