Ever had that boy who you kind of had a thing with for a couple of weeks, but then you ended up just not being interested? I’m sure every girl has, and nothing is worse than trying to end that situation, especially when the boy is super interested in you. You end it the nicest way you can, ask to stay friends, and hope that’s it. That’s never the end of it, though.
Why is it that every boy has to make you feel guilty and make a big deal over how “you’re all they want,” and give you the biggest sob story of their life? If we weren’t even dating, I highly doubt that the couple of weeks spent together really had that great of an impact on you. Boys expect us to feel sorry for them, maybe come crawling back to them because we think their whining is “cute” or something, and for some reason, believe we can’t change our minds. We’re in college; it’s safe to say I don’t have my mind made up about most things, and I’m going to change my mind all the time. It’s part of life, deal with it and move on.
The worst part of this entire situation is the constant apologizing girls have to do after ending the “thing.” Apologizing for not being interested in someone is one of the dumbest expectations I’ve ever heard of. It’s like apologizing for not liking avocados (weird analogy, I know); not everyone is going to like avocados, but does that mean you need to be sorry about it? No, you can simply not like avocados, or a boy, and that’s the end of it. No need to apologize a million times because some guy is making you feel bad because you aren’t interested in him. Sorry I’m not sorry, dude.
Relationships and love are way too important to waste on someone who just doesn’t cut it for you. You can call me heartless for thinking this way, and not feeling sorry for the boys I have left behind. However, it’s important to do what is best for yourself sometimes, especially in this kind of situation. So don’t be sorry when after a couple of weeks things just aren’t looking good to you. That’s not your fault, and you don’t have to explain yourself to some guy who’s throwing a pity party for himself.
I realize girls can be the exact same way as boys; however, since I am a girl I’m telling it from my perspective. I’m stating this fact for everyone: don’t feel sorry for yourself when an almost relationship doesn’t go your way. I realize it may suck for you, but things that are meant to be will be. No need to waste your own time pitying yourself, and no need to waste the time of others who apologize to you for no reason.
