Society and the people around us condition us to believe that if we aren’t in a relationship, you might as well give up right now. Sorry to disappoint but I’m the type of person who wants to focus on themselves and envision where I want to be with my life, career and so on. There’s nothing wrong with you if you aren’t in a long committed relationship or even if you are, that’s great as well. Why are we so quick to compare ourselves to others and immediately want what they may have? Nothing is what it seems, you may see a smiling picture of someone with his or her significant other but you have no idea what is actually going on behind the scenes. There are flaws in every relationship, because no one is perfect. AND THAT’S OKAY. Now there are definitely people who are genuinely happy with everything in their lives and relationships, and kudos to you. I hope to be at that point in my life down the road.

Just the other day I read an interview with the actor Michael B. Jordan, he spoke about the fact that he was focused on himself, developing his career, was not looking for love at the moment. I appreciate the honesty that he shared and applaud him for doing so. Not everyone needs to be in a relationship or dating, I mean sure it is nice to cuddle with someone and just watch tv, but I’m not rushing to do that. I’m trying to build a platform for myself, I’m trying to mold myself into the person I want to be/ the person that my future kids will look up to. I want to be able to stand on my own two feet and be able to support myself, not just financially but mentally. Like I mentioned in a previous article, you are your own advocate. You sometimes need to be your own cheerleader when you have no one else there for you. Again, I’M NOT BASHING ON ANYONE WHO WANTS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP AND WANTS ALL THE THINGS THAT I’M TALKING ABOUT. Because truth is, I want that special someone in my life at some point. But the point I’m trying to make is that, that’s not all that I’m focused on. It’s also incredibly rude of anyone to assume anything about another person’s romantic life. So stop yourself from doing so.

I actually want to accomplish my goals, reach my dreams and understand my full potential. I don’t want to sell myself short just because I want to get this person’s attention or I need to be with this person at the moment. It may sound selfish but it’s what I feel is right. Don’t give up your own dreams to please other people. Don’t try to prove yourself to a potential significant other, if they can’t see how awesome you are and how lucky they would be, then their loss. As the saying goes, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. You’ll find someone who shares the same ambitions as you, wants you to succeed, and believes in you even though you may not need them to say it all the time. It won’t happen overnight, you’ll have to work hard to get to where you want to be in life, but always remember to be humble and truly appreciate every opportunity that is given to you.