What It's Like To Be Non-Greek In A Greek Town

What It's Like To Be Non-Greek In A Greek Town

I’m too much of an individual to be herded into a group of girls with the “same interests and likes as me."
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Living in Tallahassee means one of two things: you’re either Greek, or you’re not. For those living in non-Greek towns, that’s just a fancy way of saying someone is in a fraternity or a sorority. Majority of Tallahassee boasts Greek letters on T-shirts and car windows, while everyone goes on with their day, some stopping to ask what those strange symbols on the front of someone’s laptop means. As for me, I’m proud to say I am not in a sorority, nor will I ever be in one.

One of the most common questions I get is, “are you going to rush?” and the answer is simple: no. Never in a million years would I see myself in a house full of girls who barely know each other’s names but know too much about each other’s private lives. I’m too much of an individual to be herded into a group of girls with the “same interests and likes as me.” That’s what clubs at school are for. Sure, some people really are just like me, but I know how I am and behave when categorized as anything other than an "individual."

I’m not saying everyone in a frat or sorority is the same, but I’m also not saying that they aren’t. My first time witnessing rush week was with some friends as we were on our way to Pots, and we were all baffled. Every single girl that walked down the street was dressed in rompers, all similar colors and styles. They all carried their tan wedges in their hands and they scurried along in their sandals. Their hair was curled ever so softly, and we could see their accessories bouncing along as they tried to beat the oncoming traffic. It was like watching Star Wars: Attack of the Clones, Sorority Edition. I soon found out from my sister (my real sister, not a sorority sister) who’s in Zeta Tau Alpha, that the girls have a list of what they have to wear, which includes the color scheme, accessories, and how they have to wear their hair. It’s like grade school all over again, with the uniform requirements and dress code.

I don’t know about most people, but I know I’m not wiling to pay $1,200 a semester to be a part of Greek life. If you’ve got the money and you can afford it, by all means, go for it, but I know what I could really do with that money, and it rhymes with “shpay my stuition.” Greek life is far too expensive, and for college students that pay their own rent, make their own car payments, and buy their own groceries, Greek life is just a luxury, not a necessity. Not to mention all the dues that need to be paid, rent if you decide to live at the house, and money to be spent on all the outfits required for certain events. Even with a job, I couldn’t afford it if I tried.

I spent 18 years living under my parents’ roof, following their rules and respecting their authority. I'll be damned if I'm about to pay $1,200 to have someone just a few years older than me telling me what to do, how to act, and what to wear. I am too much of an individual with my own plans and thoughts to be manipulated to be like someone else. These girls are not allowed to go out during rush week. They can't go to Happy Hour or parties and they can't have fun with everyone else during syllabus week. Frats, however, have all the freedom in the world to do the complete opposite. Frats can go out whenever they want during rush week, and can also party and drink while wearing their fraternity's letters, unlike sororities.

Sometimes I feel left out, like when date functions or spring formals roll around, but I don't lose sleep over it. I'm okay with not posting the same picture as twelve other girls, fake laughing into the camera or holding hands with my little. I enjoy long strolls down the grocery aisle without worrying about what I eat because formal is coming up. I find the light in being a non-Greek, and it's a very bright light. Some people want to be Greek so they can "make connections," but I've made enough connections working my little minimum wage job and being friendly with people in suits.

It's hard being a non-Greek in a Greek town, but I've learned that it makes you more of an individual. When you've got the freedom to do as you please, get a job, attend school full time, and not have to worry about chapter meetings, it's a great feeling. I applaud those who have jobs and work hard in school and can still be an active member in their frat or sorority; it's not an easy task and it is very demanding. But I know I won't do that, not because I can't, but because I enjoy my time and my freedom.


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100 Instagram Captions You'll Want To Use Right Now

Quotes, lyrics, sayings, and other ideas for Instagram captions!
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When it comes to Instagram we are often thinking about what to use as a caption for our photos that we take that we really want to post on Instagram. Sometimes we post the photo without a caption and sometimes we just use an emoji because we're stumped on finding a good caption to use for the photo. So we go the short route and just put an emoji as a caption for our photo. Well whether it is a selfie, a friend pic, group pic, or just need a caption for the photo, here are 100 captions to use for a photo. Some are lyrics, some are quotes and some are just a quick caption to use on your photo. Also here are some accounts you can follow that are worth following:

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1.Life goes on, with or without you.

2.Don't Worry Be Happy ! Bob Marley

3. Be Happy

4.Be Confident

5. Be Positive

6. Don't be a liar, everyone hates a liar

7. Chillen With My Peeps

8. Go Big Or Go Home

9. What's the deal?

10.The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it's all that matters.

11.Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.

12, You couldn't handle me even if I came with instructions.

13. You couldn't handle me even if I came with instructions.

14. Forgive, yes. Forget, never.

15.There's a hole in my heart where you use to be.

16. I don't need any part time people in my life.

17. Get the Gist

18. Boy, it's the 21st centurey get with the program.

19. Hey, I just met you, this is crazy

20. I woke up like this

21. Keep smiling because life is a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.

22. Beauty is power; a smile is it's sword

23. Last Day Of Class

24. I Donut Care

25. Got my donut and coffee today

26.Happy as a clam

27. Beach Days are the best

28.A friend will always make you smile, especially when you don't want to…

29. Always classy, never trashy, and a little bit sassy.

30. If only we could turn back time...

31. With You, I forget all my problems. With You, Time Stands Still.

32. Life's a climb, but the view is great

33. Ohana, means family, family means no one gets left behind or forgotten.

34. We come to love by not finding the perfect person but by learning to see imperfect person perfectly.

35. If I ever write a story about my life, don't be surprised if your name appears billion times.

36. "She's got that red lip, classic thing going on"

37 .I don't know what's tighter, our jeans or our friendship!

38. Best Friends make good times better and hard times easier!

39. Not sure what I did to deserve you as my best friend :)

40. I don't need your approval to be me.

41. So call me? maybe

42.I am who.I am, I am what I am, I do what I do and I ain't never gonna do it any different. I don't care who likes it and who don't.

43. Take me as I am, or watch me as I go.

44. Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars - Ed Sheeran

45. Cause you're a sky full of stars- Cold Play

46 . I keep dancing on my own- Calum Scott

47. Can't keep my hands to myself- Selena Gomez

48. I just want to look good for you- Selena Gomez

49. Kill em with kindness -Selena Gomez

50. I am not perfect. I make mistakes. But when I say Sorry… I mean it!

51. Me? Weird? Please! I am Limited Edition

52, Turn that frown upside down

53. Smile its the best thing a girl can wear

54, Stay true

55. Laughing is the best medicine you can ever get!

56. You're the king, baby I'm your queen

57. Best Friends Forever !!!

58.Throwing it back to the good ole days!

59. Ugg Life

60. I know you like first name basis

61. *Sends selfie to NASA cuz I'm a star*

62. Basic white girl

63. Frisky Friday

64. My thoughts are stars that I cannot fathom into constellations,

65. Maybe our okays will be our infinities - The Fault In Our Stars

66. So hold onto me because i'm a little unsteady - Unsteady

67. This has got to be the best day of my life - Best Day Of My LIfe - American Author

68. She;s the beauty and he's the beast

69. All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them. -Walt Disney

70. If you can dream it, you can do it.-Walt Disney

71.Hakuna Matata it means no worries for the rest of your days - The LIon King

72. "The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it." — Rafiki,

73. "Remember you're the one who can fill the world with sunshine." — Snow White, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs

74 ."The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all." — The Emperor, Mulan

75. "You don't have time to be timid. You must be bold and daring." — Lumière, Beauty and the Beast

76."All it takes is faith and trust." -- Peter Pan (Peter Pan)

77."A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference." -- Eeyore (Winnie the Pooh)

78."If you focus on what you left behind, you will never be able to see what lies ahead." -- Gusteau (Ratatouille)

79. "The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all." -- The Emperor (Mulan)

80."A true hero isn't measured by the size of his strength, but by the strength of his heart." -- Zeus (Hercules)

81."Life's not a spectator sport. If watchin' is all you're gonna do, then you're gonna watch your life go by without ya." -- Laverne (The Hunchback of Notre Dame)

82. "The things that make me different are the things that make me ME." -- Piglet (Winnie the Pooh)

83."Giving up is for rookies." -- Philoctetes (Hercules)

84.. "Happiness is the richest thing we will ever own." -- Donald Duck

85. "Change is good." -- Rafiki (The Lion King)

86."Remember, you're the one who can fill the world with sunshine." -- Snow White (Snow White and the Seven Dwarves)

87. "All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them." -- Walt Disney

88.Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky. Rabindranath Tagore
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89.The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart. Helen Keller
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90.The sky broke like an egg into full sunset and the water caught fire. Pamela Hansford Johnson
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91.Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success. Swami Sivananda
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92..Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain... To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices - today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. Kevyn Aucoin
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93.Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'! Audrey Hepburn
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94. Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you. Walt Whitman
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95.My power's turned on

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96.Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. Buddha
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97.Let your life lightly dance on the edges of Time like dew on the tip of a leaf. Rabindranath Tagore
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98.I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.' Muhammad Ali
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99. Why don't you be you

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100. Life is like a camera, we focus on the positives and develop from the negatives.

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Katy's Declassified College Party Survival Guide

Use these tips to have the time of your life and stay safe!

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We have all heard the story of one person who was way too intoxicated or high and ended up in a bad place. By bad place I mean sick, lost, bothering others, just overall a bad ending to their night. If you can help it don't be that person. Don't get me wrong everyone goes through a night like that, if you're like me you've probably had a few nights like that. Here are some major tips that I have learned the hard way so you don't have to.

A lot of college kids have the mentality that it can't and won't happen to them, but one of the laws of nature is that it will. You should always have the safety on the front of your mind. (I sound like a parent but it's true).

For women this means more, you need to always watch your drink and get it directly from the bar, not from that cute boy Brock you just met. You need to make sure none of your girlfriends leave with a guy you don't know if they do get his phone number name and address. You may look crazy but that is way better than looking like a bad friend. This should go without saying but I'd rather be safe than sorry, DON'T LEAVE WITH SOMEONE YOU DON'T KNOW.

Always, always, always uber. Never trust a designated driver, they're only human and will more than likely start to drink if they have the opportunity. They could be your absolute best friend who will never drink a day in their life, but your life is not worth that small risk.

Always let someone know where you're going to be, this means someone who isn't going out with you. I always recommend telling parents because they know you best and will know if somethings wrong. If you don't feel comfortable telling your parents, tell a reliable friend that lives close to you just in case.

Try out new spots but always have your favorite as a backup. Go out and enjoy a frat party one night or try a new club that just opened up, it's always fun finding a new place to hang out. Always keep a backup spot though, somewhere you know is fun and that you like.

If you're at a house party, get ready for the cops to be called. They always do, and I mean if I was those kids neighbor I would probably call the cops too (wow I'm getting old). In most college towns, the cops will just say turn the music down but if you know your town is notorious for arrests maybe make sure you can get away (not that I'm condoning running from the cops).

Less is more. You don't need a purse or backpack (a fanny pack is a totally different story though) at a party or club. It will more than likely get lost or stolen. All you really need is your ID and cash to get in (bring a little extra so you can get food after).

Have fun but know your limits. Almost everyone you meet in college will have a story where they partied too hard, some are worse than others but learn from them all. You can totally have fun without doing shots every minute or drinking yourself into liver failure.

P.S. Taco Bell and McDonald's are the best places to eat after a night out.

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