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I'm A Feminist, But I Still Want To Live My 'Old-Fashioned' Gender Role

It's okay that it's not for everyone, but it's still something I look forward to.


If you ever asked me what I wanted when I grew up, the most important thing for me has always been to get married and start a family. Yes, I had certain career goals that I considered and desired, but all of them paled in comparison to my ultimate goal of marriage and raising children.

And that's still true!

I'm the girl who wants to be a stay-at-home mom who relies on her husband's income. I want to be the wife who cooks dinner for her husband every night and always considers ways to make him happy. I want to wear dresses and aprons and make cookies for my kids. I want to be in the PTA and walk my kids to school. I want my husband to balance the budget and take charge. And there's nothing wrong with any of that! I'm happy and excited to be a typical 1950's housewife in a 2000's world.

I can't imagine being happy in a successful career if I didn't have a successful marriage. That's not to say I don't want both, in some capacity. I do hope to have a job before and after I have kids. I can't imagine having a fulfilling life without a career once I'm done raising my kids. But that's not at all my top priority.

Nevertheless, I think it's important to acknowledge that there's nothing wrong with other people's choices. If my best friend decides she wants more than anything else to be a successful career woman and marries a man who desires to stay at home with their kids, that's beautiful because that's what works for them.

Or maybe another friend doesn't want to get married at all and is happy to dedicate her life to her career. That is also okay!

However, in today's world, I don't think enough focus is placed on those who still do desire to be a traditional "old-fashioned" housewife. It seems to be a matter of fact that women should be in the workforce. Stay-at-home moms are becoming a thing of the past, out of necessity, desire or both.

While my idea of being a housewife might popular choice right now, I think that there is something truly rewarding about it.

Yes, I want to serve my husband; I look forward to the day when I can cook dinner for him every night and work during the day to keep the house clean, just as I hope that he looks forward to the day that his hard work at his job will help support our family. Being a stay-at-home mom means that my kids will have me at home to raise them and care for them. I will have the time to help them with their homework and teach them to be kind and contributing members of society.

Every family dynamic is different. Being a housewife and stay-at-home mom is not "old-fashioned" or "out-dated." It's simply what works for me.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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To Those Who Feel The Need To Tear Down Others, Take A Seat

You have no right to hurt others because you don’t agree with them.


I recently wrote a super controversial article, which I'm honestly very proud of. In the comment section, there were plenty of people criticizing me because of what I believe in, mainly because they didn't believe in the same thing as I put out there.

I would just like everyone to know that the people that write for this amazing company are just that — people. They are real, they have opinions, and they have feelings. There is nothing different about them than you. Would you like someone commenting hate on your Facebook post or anything like that? No, no you wouldn't. When you comment rude things on something that someone worked long and hard on, you are just being rude and inconsiderate of their feelings.

If you just go to the comments to leave a rude comment, you can write it down on a piece of paper and throw it away. You're being a bully. These writers more than likely will go to the comment section, just like I did, and will be hurt by your arrogant, inappropriate comments.

Ever heard of if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all.

If you don't agree with me that's fine, but that doesn't give you the right to deliberately go and try and tear me or anyone else down. You're just being rude and you have no reason to be, all I did was write an article on something I believe in.

Also, don't let anyone rude enough to do this tear you down or diminish your self-worth. There are people out there who are still kind and caring, don't listen to the negativity this world brings. Just keep doing what makes you happy, because in the end, that's all that really matters.

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