Skinny Girls Can Complain, Too

Skinny Girls Can Complain, Too

The frowned upon struggle of complaining about your body while skinny.


It is approximated that 91% of women are unhappy with their current body. Whether that be displeased with their weight or the overall shape of their body, it seems most everyone has some issue with the way that they look, but it also seems only certain people are allowed to complain or mention anything about it.

We have all heard people in our lives say things like "oh I should really start going to the gym more often I've put on a few pounds recently" or "I should start dieting to try and lose some weight." These statements are considered fine and normal, no one really has an outrageous opinion against someone wanting to lose weight and most times nowadays it is even encouraged, but what about those of us who are also unhappy with our bodies, just not in the "normal" way.

For all of my life, I have been pretty much a walking stick figure. I am five foot four have never broken past 100 pounds, in fact I tend to hover around the 94-95 pound area. I have always been a size double zero in pants and an extra small in tops. Some of you may be reading this now wondering what on earth I have to complain about, everyone strives to to be smaller so why aren't I happy?

I am not happy because I am not healthy. I have a body mass index (BMI) of 16.1, anything under 18.5 is considered to be underweight which, again, is not healthy. In order to be considered healthy I need to be at the very least 110 pounds, that is 16 pounds away and I find it impossible to put on weight (commence eye-rolling, I know.)

The fact that I am so small has given me extremely poor body image. I am constantly wearing oversized clothing to cover up the fact I think my arms look and legs look disgustingly scrawny. I feel as though any small fall and all my bones will break because there is nothing to protect them. I have constant back pain because I have no developed muscle to help hold myself upright all the time. I gather that a lot of what I feel many others feel too, so why do I always feel as though no one really takes me seriously when I try to talk about it?

It seems as though no one really gets it. Any time I mention not feeling comfortable in my body I always receive the same responses. "Wow I wish I had your problem you're so lucky"..."really you're going to complain to me about not being able to gain weight if only I was that skinny." Yes, I understand there are many of you out there who want to lose weight because you want to look and feel better about yourselves, but why can't I wish for the same for me? Why is it suddenly so taboo for me to openly want to gain weight?

I guess the main point of this article is just to let people complain without judging them. You never know what someone is thinking or how someone feels about themselves, and negating their feelings only ever ends up hurting them more. Hopefully in time the percentage of people unhappy with their bodies will continually decrease but until then, please, just let me complain.

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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10 Ways To Keep Your Workout Motivation According To A Personal Trainer

"ALEXA play 'Work Bitch' by Britney Spears."


Keeping your motivation for working out is one of the number one reasons why I think people fail to achieve their fitness goals.

Now I am no "fitness guru" by any means, and I have lost my motivation many times and worked back up.

No one is perfect when it comes to working out, and everyone can have different methods that are successful but from what I have seen, and talking to a few personal trainers, these are some of the best ways to keep your motivation and not lose track of your goals.

If you stick to these 10 ways, you will definitely have a better mindset when it comes to working out, and that will help you push yourself hard because you know that you are capable of much more than you think!

That is the last piece of advice I will leave you with, you are so much more capable of than you think. I recall so many times in the gym, I've thought I was gonna just collapse or crumble cause I was so tired, but time and time again I persevere and finish a set, and see that I can really push myself to the limits, and this is when I've seen the best results.

1. Talk about your goals.

You have to speak your goals into existence. Also speaking about them to others can help hold you accountable and you are working so hard for them, don't give up and let what you accomplished so far go to waste!

2. Get a consistent workout buddy.

This is something that I have found helps me out a lot, my roommate Jordan and I are always checking in on each other to make sure that we've worked out!

3. Want better for yourself, not to impress someone else.

This is also very important, if you have fitness goals solely to impress someone else, you will never be satisfied, or never feel like enough.

4. Want it more than you say.

You really have to want your fitness goals more than you are saying. If you have this goal that is driving you constantly in the back of your mind, your motivation will keep coming from within.

5. Have a scheduled workout plan.

If you have a workout plan that a professional or yourself has constructed, it gives you something to follow and not break. Having a plan for yourself will help keep yourself on track.

6. Take pictures every week!

Seems cheesy, but taking photos of yourself every week can hold you accountable but more importantly, you are able to see results, big or small, if you aren't seeing them in person, you'll be able to tell through the photos.

7. Know what your plan is before you go to the gym.

You should know what your plan is before you go to the gym, try not to just wing it. If you are winging it, who knows if you are really pushing yourself and constantly challenging yourself every gym session.

8. Try your best to maintain a healthy diet during the week.

This can be difficult of course, meal prepping is someting that can always helps! BUT if you don't have time to meal prep, then just go to the grocery store and buy a bunch of healthy snacks to eat throughout the day to keep your motabalism working. Get foods to fuel your body so all your hard workouts don't go to waste!

9. Stick to a plan, it'll be hard at first, but it only gets easier.

Once you get into the swing of things, get into a routine, you'll get used to it. And then you will truly enjoy it, feel great, and have more energy!

10. Surround yourself with others that also have the same goals as you.

As cliche as it is, you do pick up the traits of the people you surround yourself with. If you surround yourself with overachievers, hard workers, who have the same fitness goals as you, you'll all work hard together and encourage each other along the way!

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