There are so many things we all yearn to go back and tell our old self what our more experienced self knows now. The cringe worthy, awkward moments that we thought were life ending at the time, mean nothing to us any more. The times we didn’t think we were good enough for something or someone, we now realize they are. The times we played it safe because we were afraid of the risk, we now know the risk is worth it. Who’s to say that we would have even listened to ourselves back then. Nonetheless, we can’t help but long to give our untried selves that unsolicited advice.
1. Stop overthinking. Don’t overanalyze every single word someone says or the way they say it. More times than not we create problems in our head that don’t actually exist. We start stressing about things that aren’t necessarily an issue to begin with. The less you overthink the better you can see the situation for what it actually is.
2. Don’t be so negative. Don’t assume things are always going to turn out poorly. Stop preparing yourself for the worst possible scenario. It takes away from the good in the situation. If your mind is focused constantly on waiting for things to go south you will never enjoy the moments when they are at their best. Not to mention you are setting things up for failure before they even have a chance of working.
3. You can’t always control things. Sometimes things happen the way things are meant to. That means accepting the way things are if you know they cannot be changed.
4. If you want something, work for it. This is obvious to say but sometimes I think we assume that if something is meant to be it will just happen. But know that the really good things in life require work. Sure, sometimes amazing things happen to us maybe out of good karma and pure luck but the most rewarding things are the ones you put the most effort into.
5. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Not everyday is going to be your best day; you have to accept that and move on. Your results aren’t always going to be perfect and that’s okay. You can’t beat yourself up every time you didn't do well enough because those days will happen. You have to wake up the next day and try again.
6. Don’t wish away time. You can never get time back. So live in present and take the risk. Do things that are out of your comfort zone because those are the moments you are going to remember most and you won’t have to wish for time back because you regret not taking the chance while you had it.
7. It all works out. In the end people that are meant to stay in your life will stay. The bad times will pass and so will the good, everything is temporary, but necessary in order to lead us where we are meant to be.
