"May your heart remain breakable, but never by the same hand twice"
-Taylor Swift, Why She Disappeared
I hope you experience heartbreak at least once in your life.
The kind that leaves you crying on the bathroom floor. The kind that results in regretted voicemails and late-night calls. The kind that ends in bitter resentment and a complete reevaluation of who you are and who you want to be.
I wish this for you not out of spite or bitterness from my own previous heartbreaks, but because of what changed when I finally chose to begin again.
Learning to trust less, but open more. Learning to love another, despite my previous fears that it was impossible, and learning to never make the same mistake twice.
I think, at some point, we all take back the "not so good" guy. Rebounding into yet another whirlwind of chaos and fun, we dive into shallow water and hope that somehow it will be deeper than before.
Until it isn't, and we are left licking our wounds all over again
But my greatest hope for you is that if someone breaks your heart, you never close yourself off to the rest of the world. That after you find the strength to forgive yourself, you rise and try again.
Your heart can be soft and strong too. It was created that way. -Delida
However, that can only happen if you are willing to remain open to the great unknown and regardless of who hurt you last time.
Regardless of when, and regardless of who, I hope that you find the strength within to forgive, but to never allow them to break you again. Because you are far too valuable and too full of life to be half loved.
I know it might be hard to walk away, to block them on your phone or social media, but sometimes this is the only way to begin to heal. To recognize this heartbreak as what it is, and then to move on.
To find things that give you joy. Whether that be running, painting or music, and to never stop searching for the things that fill you up instead of tearing you down.
Because with time, this heartbreak will be nothing more than a memory that inevitably challenged you and forced you to grow in ways unexpected, but never defined you. Only you can decide that.
