Look For People Who'll Hurt You, Help You, And Hinder You

Look For People Who'll Hurt You, Help You, And Hinder You

Learn from the people that you encounter and simply move accordingly.


We do not necessarily know if people are real and truly genuine to you and we don't know what people's intentions are towards you. So we have this guard up to the point where we don't even speak to new people. It's a little deranged, but from my experiences and situations I've realized and learned to try with some people without this guard being up, and also being aware to who I let in my life.

Learning that not everyone's intentions are good you kind of have to keep an eye out, that does not mean do not trust anyone, but it means to have your own back first in many situations. I know when to go to people and I know when to distance myself. To get by in life you are going to go through various amounts of people and some will stick around, some will go and some with come back in your life. You just have to learn how to determine what wholesome person is for you and who will stick around with you.

They will Hurt you, they will Help you, and they will Hinder you; the 3 Hs (HHH):

They will HURT you because I believe some people do come in your life to teach you lessons on what not to do in the future. You can't control the actions of others so this WILL happen. You will get hurt. You will have to learn how to deal with this encounter.

They will HELP you. There are (believe it or not) people that are genuine and actually mean what they say to you. Those people are rare but we do have at least one person in our life that are like that, and if you think you don't check your roster! There are millions of people in this world with different hearts, you are around one.

Lastly, They will HINDER you Because some people come in your life to kind of set you back. They will keep you from doing certain things in your life to benefit their own needs. You may be blind to such people and you may not know it but look for the signs in people that will only look out for themselves around you, they will set you back.

All in all, the people around you may or may not have bad intentions but it is entirely up to you to determine who is there for you and who has your best interest at heart, I am just here to give you some awareness towards doing so. xo

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Any girl who is at least 5'8" will understand these struggles and possibly identify with them on a spiritual level.

1. Dresses not being long enough

Finding dresses for any occasion that will be long enough is like searching for rain in a drought. And when you find one, it's bound to either cost $$$ or not fit another aspect of your body.

2. Heck, pants are never long enough either

You are constantly flooding, or else you rolled up your jeans to look like capris. Unless you special ordered some jeans online in the coveted size LONG or EXTRA LONG, this will forever be your fate.

3. "Do you date guys that are shorter than you?"

This is a personal preference people! Don't assume that a girl will or will not date someone just based on their height difference! Also, don't judge if they aren't interested in someone who is shorter than them!

4. Not wearing heels because you don't enjoy being the skyscraper of the friend group

Wearing heels can be fun buuuuuuuut sometimes towering over everyone else is not our idea of fun.

5. It's hard to find cute shoes that actually fit

You would love to have all those cute little shoes in the clearance section, but most of them barely cover your big toe.

6. Everyone thinks you walk too fast

Short-legged people just can't keep up with you, even though you aren't even walking fast. Like at all.

7. People want to jump on your back

Just because you're tall doesn't give them the license to make you into their personal camel.

8. Never being able to cross your legs underneath desks and tables

You. Can. Not. Get. Comfortable.

9. Awkward hugs

Some people will never understand.

10. Never knowing how to pose in pictures

Should you sorority squat? Pop the hip? Bend the leg? Contort your body to feel like a normal sized human? So hard to decide.

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Summer = Rest?

Sometimes it feels as if we need a vacation... from our vacation.


Ah summer: Popsicles and sun burns, mixed with fresh-squeezed lemonade that local kids are pandering to make enough money for Roman candles and Black Cats. The crack of the bat can be heard among the simmering charcoal grills and Troy-bilts humming through the ever-lasting sun. School is out and children are wild. It's a paradise.

Or is it?

But after countless sports camps and tournaments, other camps, vacations, school (?) events, traveling teams, VBS, summer seems to have been sucked fun-free.

Maybe it's Hollywood and Harper Lee's fault for giving us this utopian view of what summer should look and feel like (I'm looking at you Sandlot). But how can we really rest this summer? Because everyone needs some actual rest, even adults.

First thing is do NOT pack your summer full. Say no to some things. Coaches and Families can expect too much and it's okay to say no to them. You have to. There is no time for kids to be kids anymore.

Work can take a backseat. Vacations need to be taken. Families need to reconnect.

And for all my super-scheduled people out there, please PLEASE don't schedule out your vacation. Just enjoy it.

Another bit of advice would be to put away the technology and spend some time outside. When was the last time you tried to catch lightning bugs? Or went for a swim? Or listened to birds on your front porch?

I may sound like I have an old soul, but I really feel like we have lost this connection to the outside world. Summer is all about getting a farmer's tan and getting stung once or twice. I can guarantee you that's some of the best therapy in the world.

Maybe this sounds all over the place. Maybe this sounds like me ranting. And it probably is.

But I'm telling you that this stuff matters. Don't let summer whiz by and you arrive in August more drained that you were in May. Enjoy this time with family and friends.

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