How Do You Want To Be Remembered?

How Do You Want To Be Remembered?

Because we all can't live forever.

The day after Christmas, late at night, I couldn’t fall asleep so naturally, I decided to find pointless things to do on the Internet. A website came up that had questions to get to know yourself better, so I thought I would give it a try. There were one hundred questions ranging from, “What is your favorite ice cream flavor?” to, “In what ways do you hold yourself back?” Each question took a different amount of time to come to a conclusion, and each question made me realize things about myself that I never truly thought about before. As 3 am was approaching and I was starting to doze off, I was about to shut down my laptop until I saw question number sixty-two:

“How do you want to be remembered?”

The automatic first thought that came to my mind, without hesitation, was simply the word, “kind.” Then, as I started to think about this more and more, I was slapped in the face with an epiphany and was immediately wide awake again. As scary as it may be to think about, we never know when we are going to live our last day and take our last breath. That thought, paired with that seven-worded question, sent chills up my spine and brought exuberance to my mind. Of course, we have all heard the saying, “live every day as if it were your last,” however, not nearly as frequently do we hear people telling us to act in such a way that people would not have anything negative to say if we were to die tomorrow.

So often, we get caught up in the pettiness of life. I, too, am guilty of it. We get so anxious about how many likes our Facebook post will get, how good we look on Instagram, and which filter looks best on Snapchat. We judge people based on how much money they have, the kind of car they drive, and the size of the house they live in. We assess people based on their jean size, their tattoo placement, and their hair color. How the hell, as a society, have we succumbed to this being the standard of the important things in life?

Hypothetically, if I were to die tomorrow, how do I want to be remembered? Well, I want to be remembered as kind. I want to be remembered as selfless, positive, and easy to talk to. I want to be the girl that was known for being full of life…every second, of every hour, of every day. When a person thinks of someone who is generous and non-judgmental, I want my name to appear within their minds. I want to be remembered as always smiling, never taking life too seriously, and basking in the moment. I want to be remembered for being unordinary; bursting with flames of passion for things in life that others might consider utterly weird. Being considerate of any and every human that may walk into my life, even if only for a mere second, is how I want to be thought of.

Vibrant, simple, balanced, joyous, brave, accepting, and gentle.

Wild, fierce, intense, emotional, virtuous, genuine, and open.

A number of characteristics attainable are overwhelming in the most satisfying and fulfilling ways possible.

Ask yourself this question and then live by your answer because there are far too many characteristics within a human that triumphs how attractive you are and how much money you have. If someone asks you how you want to be remembered and you reply with, “popular” or “pretty,” oh, how I hope that you open your eyes some day very soon and realize the abundance of life that lives beyond those qualities.

The world is filled with unlimited gratitude and never-ending intrinsic beauty. Never forget what you want your worth to be, and never forget how you want to be remembered.

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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.


When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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How To Avoid Getting Sick Your  Freshman Year

It's going to take a little more than an apple a day.


College is the prime time and place to catch a cold... or worse. Although, somehow I managed to crack the code to health and not get sick my whole first year of college. This is surprising considering I was living in the close (and very unsanitary) quarters of a dorm room.

1. Keep your diet somewhat healthy

I know how hard it is to eat healthy in college, especially on a low budget. But with the dining hall foods, you can at least include some vegetables and fruits into your everyday consumption. The vitamins in these foods will help keep your immune system up and it will be worth the effort.

2. Try to exercise a few times per week

Even if you're just getting out of the dorm for a thirty minute walk, it will benefit your body. If you decide to up your routine from that, even better! The more endorphins, the more you will feel better inside and out.

3. Cut back on the drinking if you feel a cold coming on

Surprisingly, many college students don't seem to know that alcohol lowers your immune system. Of course, for some people theres no way of avoiding drinking. But if you can at least give your body rest days, it will be extremely beneficial.

4. Invest in a dehumidifier for your dorm room

I believe this was a very big player in helping me not get sick. The dehumidifier helps reduce dust and other particles in the air. This will help not agitate your allergies and you will feel more clear headed.

5. Try not to share personal products

Sharing things like towels, makeup, unwashed cups, etc. can all be causes of a sickness being passed around you and your friends. Of course sharing is caring, just make sure it's sanitary.

6. Be conscientious of who you kiss!

Make sure that your girlfriend, boyfriend, or "its complicated" person is not sick before you're getting cozy with them.

7. Drink lots of green tea!

Personally, I credit green tea and its anti-oxidants for keeping the flu away and even getting rid of bugs that might be forming in your system. So if you feel like you might be developing a cold, chug that tea!

I know how annoying these tips may be. But I promise, if you implement at least a few it could reduce your chances of feeling horrible during midterms in the winter, and sneezing all over your finals in the fall.

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