There's a lot more to life than trying to find a significant other. Some people spend all their time looking for that special someone that they never see what's right in front of them. Others spend all their time looking that they never actually stop and live their life. Well, I'm an opinionated, relativity single, and full of bias gal, but I think there's a whole lot you can be doing without "your other half". In fact, I think there's a lot you should be doing before you commit yourself to someone else. So when you're in the midst of waiting, such as myself, here's a helpful guide to being productive with you and your hot-self.
Take a step back.
Just because everyone else seems to be happy in a relationship doesn't mean you have to be. Life is long. Think about if a relationship is really what you want at this point in your life. If so, go for it. If not, not harm in waiting. Don't feel pressured.
Evaluate your hopes and dreams.
Think about what you want to accomplish in your life. How does that other person fit in? Do you see them as a hindrance to your aspirations or someone who will push you to achieve them? Every lid has its pot. Don't go forcing a relationship that doesn't fit right.
Avoid Cuffing Season.
Don't get me wrong. Having someone to consistently cuddle with during this chilly winter season is the bee's knees; but don't fall into a relationship just because you are cold and lonely. John Mayer knows what's up when he says "I'm perfectly lonely". John is the mastermind of love. Listen to John.
Create strong friendships.
It is these bonds that will get you through life. Good friends will have your back through the joy and heartache. Did my boyfriend from 7th grade last more than a month? No. But my best friend sure as hell did now over 7 years later.
Travel.
You will learn so much more about yourself and what you love and desire out of life. Traveling provides a new lens to look at life with. It's like discovering the world has more colors than you ever realized. It's like tasting your new favorite food, falling in love, going bungee jumping, and listening to the ocean all wrapped into one. So go, take some time for yourself.
Work hard.
Get ahead. Focus on your career. Be your own boss. Push yourself. Be a little selfish. Now is the time and you've earned it.
Love yourself.
It's my firm belief that you cannot truly love someone else until you learn to love yourself. So be kind to you. You're worth it.
"Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home." -- Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
Spend time with family.
There's no time like the present. Also you won't always have the opportunity to spend time with those you love down the line. Take advantage of it now.
Meet a lot of different people.
See you who you mesh well with. Find people that inspire you. Go on some good dates. Go on some bad dates. Make connections and talk to people who you normally wouldn't reach out to. The more people you connect with, the more you'll see who you'd like to end up with.
Don't wait.
Life is what happens when you're not looking. Go out and live it.
