Differences are what make us special. Differences are what set us apart from all the people around us. But also, differences can bring us trouble in all type of relationships. When two very different people come together, two things could happen. A good and outgoing relationship can emerge, or trouble can happen. Two different people can set their differences apart and work together to make them work, or can make their differences an interference in the relationship. This way, the relationship won’t work.
In order to have a healthy relationship with someone special and of importance to you, as your mom, respect is the most important aspect of the relationship. Respect have to come from your part as the child, but also has to come from her part as your mom. In many cases, divorces trouble this type of relationship and hatred will reign in the house. When hatred is the predominant feeling in the house, you will live in hell. And I am telling this as an anecdote of my life for a couple of years until a finally matured and started to understand how important that person was in my life.
At first, I was too proud of myself to come to an agreement with this person. I refused to give up on my end to try and make things work. I constantly refused. It was a very good day when me, myself, and I started thinking on how well this relationship could be if I put work on my behalf; On how I was damaging a life long relationship with someone very special to me. I finally understood that it was my responsibility to meet half to make the relationship work. I had to give up something on my end to make it work. And it worked. I humbled myself, and first of all, I apologized. After apologizing, a sat down and a good conversation took place telling each other what was troubling the relationship until we finally came to an agreement. We ere going to respect our differences, accept each other as we were, and more important, meet half way.