When you ignore your romantic partner because you’re upset, you aren’t achieving anything because it teaches the other person to live without you.Emotionally charged situations cause extreme decisions when it boils down to relationships. Take responsibility and let the other person know to not to worry about breaking up, and that you will let each other know when is a good time to have a calmer conversation.

Instead, find a way to kindly and sensitively let them know that you’d get back to them once you feel better. This way the other person has more comfort to live their lives and to do their jobs with a better sense of security while the relationship is recharging. Good communication and knowing how to control your pride are what sets an immature relationship apart from a mature one.

Don’t try to force a conversation through when the other person isn’t ready. You can help them by texting them things that you love about them. Describe what attracts you to them whether it’s their personality or appearance. It doesn’t matter what you really talk about, but make sure that it is genuine and caring. Having a good relationship means that you are willing to put yourself out there to make the other person feel warmth and love. It’s always nice to hear appreciating words about yourself even when you’re mad.

Another way to help bring you closer to your partner during a tense period is to surprise them. Gifts and romantic gestures are a sign of thoughtfulness, so it’s always helpful to show them that you are waiting to talk to them whenever they’re ready. Also it provides a good start to a conversation. Spend a little money to show them that you care about their value, however it doesn’t have to be extravagant for the point to get across.

When you’re ready to speak with your partner, avoid blaming because it’ll be obvious when you’re trying to criticize them. It’ll cause a flare in the ego, and it will bring more negative feelings back to the apology. Usually this is the time where things go wrong when you try to make up. Be courteous and listen to the partner before speaking. Use gentler words to avoid stirring up anger, sadness, or frustration. The intonation of your voice should be looked after as well because some people are more sensitive to the overall tone and delivery of the apology. If it sounds angry or forced, it won’t be as appreciated as its potential. Try to not regret how you said sorry, or in general, regret apologizing in the first place.