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Fall In Love With Failure In Order To Be Successful

Make failure your key to success.

Rachel Wahlin
Rachel Wahlin Oct 22, 2018
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The world is full of 'no's.' From your parents saying no to you not being able to go out with your friends, to getting denied from the college you really wanted to go to. The word 'No' is defined as 'the negative answer or decision; getting the opposite of what is specified' according to Google.

If any of you follow Gary Vaynerchuk (better known as Gary Vee, famous entrepreneur and motivational speaker) said once that you need to 'fall in love with failure.' Accepting failure and how you handle that failure, really determines your destiny. (It does sound cheesy, but it is very true).

So many people let failure defeat them. You might say that failure might not defeat you, but inside it still does. Failure is a daunting feeling that makes you feel less than who you are. Or that you do not have enough potential for something. But here is the thing…YOU DO HAVE THE POTENTIAL FOR SOMETHING.

I love failing. I know, it sounds crazy, but I like failing. Why? Because it helps me narrow down my options, and shows me what is meant to be, and what isn't. Failure is a sign from God saying, 'No, there is another way you can do this, you just haven't found it yet. Keep pushing forward'. I am a firm believer in 'if it's meant to be, it's meant to be, and if it isn't, it isn't'. Failure is like your guide through life, helping you stay off the roads you aren't meant to go down. And when failure does come to you, you essentially find another way.

For example, when you apply for college, you apply to several schools. (Unlike me, only applying to one). So, when I got a response back from the college, they denied my application. I was devastated because I had painted this whole picture in my head of myself there, and that it was the 'only way' to be successful and get to where I want to be in life. Well, I let myself be sad for a solid five minutes, but then I branched out my options, knowing that it is okay and that God didn't want me to go there as well, thus why I got denied. Failure really pisses me off, but it fuels the fire/drive for success I have.

My message to you is take that failure, accept it, maybe laugh at it! You will find another way for success. Just keep working hard, exploring, and making a difference, and you will end up where you need to be, regardless of how you get there.

Rachel Wahlin
Rachel Wahlin Oct 22, 2018
At University of Wisconsin Branch Schools
At University of Wisconsin Branch Schools

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10 Signs You Might Be A Clinomaniac

It's not as crazy as it seems.
Luna Lovos
Luna Lovos Feb 6, 2017
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Since my concussion last month, my doctor prescribed me ample bed rest and sleep. I am normally the type of person that goes to bed late and wakes up early excited to get all things done and have a newly productive day. Because I take my recovery very seriously, I knew I had to put my usual uppity attitude and work ethic to rest (no pun intended). As of this January, I have actually been following my doctor's advice and taken sleep seriously...maybe a little too seriously. In addition to recovering from my concussion, I have also dreamt up a new idea that I have fallen in love with. In getting all of my necessary sleep, I have found it more and more difficult to leave the unrelenting comfort of my bed. I never realized just how comfortably satisfying staying in bed can be. From springing out of bed before my alarm went off to now hitting the snooze for as long as I can just to lay there, I think I might be developing clinomania.

"Clinomania" has Greek origins, " clino -" meaning bed and "-mania" meaning obsession. It literally translates into an obsession of bed . But what does it really mean to be a clinomania ? Here are 10 signs you might be one:

1. When someone asks you what your hobby is and your reply is "sleeping."

2. As soon as you wake up, all you want to do is crawl back into bed.


3. Your perfect date is in bed snuggled up in a comforter.


4. The thought of leaving bed is as daunting as leaving the womb.


5. You would rather be asleep than doing anything else, including eating.


6. The best part of your day is when you get to reunite with your bed.


7. You do everything from bed: eat breakfast in bed, read in bed, even file your taxes in bed.

8. There is never too much time that you can spend in bed.


9. You often daydream about dreaming in bed.


10. You feel most happy when cuddled up in bed and countdown the minutes to spend as long as you can in bed.


If you resonate with at least 5 of these statements, chances are you're a clinomaniac. I'm giggling as I write this from my bed right now. I love having the ability to recline comfortably on my pillows and snuggle up to my blanket at any moment. It brings me so much peace to be in bed, escaping off into a dream world whenever. Best of all is the class A comfort levels from doing things like homework and studying in bed.

Unfortunately, this newly captured love affair with my pillows may not be as amazing as it feels. If you linger in bed excessively for more than 2 weeks, you could actually be showing signs of clinical depression . If you are feeling constant tiredness and result in staying in bed all day, you could be suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome . More than likely, if you are reading this article then chances are you might be like me: a self-proclaimed clinomaniac who is simply in a love affair with their bed, pillows, blankets, and all things sleeping. I wish you all the sweetest of dreams and bid you a good night and farewell! :)


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Luna Lovos
Luna Lovos Feb 6, 2017
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I'm Not The Person I Was In High School And I'm Not Sorry I Changed

I'm sorry, the old me can't come to the phone right now.

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graciedough May 19, 2019
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If those who knew me in high school hung out with me now, they probably wouldn't recognize me. If my friends from college hung out with me around two years ago, they probably wouldn't recognize me. It's safe to say I've changed... a lot. I definitely find the change to be for the better and I couldn't be happier with the person I've become

In high school, I would sit at home every night anxiously waiting to leave and go out. Now, honestly, going out is the last thing I want to do any night of the week. While everyone in college is at a fraternity party or at the bars, I prefer to sit at home on the couch, watching Netflix with my boyfriend. That's an ideal night for me and it is exactly the opposite of what I wanted to do a couple of years ago. There's nothing wrong with going out and partying, it's just not what I want to do anymore.

I craved attention in high school. I went to the parties and outings so I could be in Snapchats and photos, just so people would know I was there. I hung out with certain groups of people just so I could say I was "friends" with so-and-so who was so very popular. I wanted to be known and I wanted to be cool.

Now, I couldn't care less. I go to the bars or the parties if I really feel like it or if my friends make me feel bad enough for never going anywhere that I finally decide to show up. It's just not my scene anymore and I no longer worry about missing out.

If you could look back at me during my junior year of high school, you probably would've found me searching for the best-ranked party schools and colleges with the best nearby clubs or bars. Now, you can find me eating snacks on the couch on a Friday night watching the parties through other peoples' Snapchats.

Some may say that I'm boring now, and while I agree that my life is a little less adventurous now than it was in high school, I don't regret the lifestyle changes I've made. I feel happier, I feel like a better person, I feel much more complete. I'm not sorry that I've changed since high school and I'm not sorry that I'm not living the typical "college lifestyle." I don't see anything wrong with that life, it's just not what makes me happy and it's not what I want to do anymore.

I've become a different person since high school and I couldn't be happier about it. I have a lot that's contributed to the change, but my boyfriend definitely was the main factor as he showed me that staying in can be a million times better than a night out. My interests and my social cravings have completely transitioned into that of an 80-year-old grandma, but I don't regret it.

Change doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can bring a lot more happiness and comfort. The transition from high school to college is drastic, but you can also use it as an opportunity to transition from one lifestyle to another. I don't regret the lifestyle flip I made and I couldn't be less apologetic about it.

graciedough
graciedough May 19, 2019
At Florida Gulf Coast University

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