A friend breakup can be just as upsetting as a relationship breakup, but can also end up being just as freeing. Sometimes the healthiest thing to do is to say goodbye to the people you once thought would always be there for you.
You don’t feel good about yourself when you hang out with them.
A friend is defined as someone attached to another with feelings of affection and regard, or someone who gives you support. If your friends make you feel bad about yourself, then you probably shouldn’t stay friends with them. You wouldn’t date someone who points out your flaws or makes judgmental comments, so why would you want to be friends with someone who does that?
They tell you they’re too busy to hang out, then post pictures and videos of them hanging out with other people on social media.
This is not only hurtful because they’re blowing you off, but also because they lied about it. I don’t mind if my friends want to spend time with other people, but they can at least be honest about it (or be more convincing when they lie).
They’re always late, but get mad at you when you are.
This applies not only to lateness, but to other flaws as well. Being late can be hurtful in itself, because it implies that they don’t value your time. That being said, I have friends that are late all the time, and I don’t mind it because I can basically count on them to be late and factor that into deciding a time and if I’m late every once in a while they’re totally chill about it. If your friends constantly do something but get mad at you when you do it, it’s a pretty good indicator that they aren’t good friends.
They don’t take your feelings into account.
If they start out an apology with accusing you of doing something wrong, or if they won’t even apologize in the first place, they’re not people you should spend a lot of your time with. Other signs of them not caring about your feelings are them getting mad when you mention something that they do upsets you, or them telling you they’re not trying to hurt your feelings while actively doing something that they know is hurting your feelings.
Multiple people have asked you why you're friends with them, and you don’t have a good answer.
After having other friends of mine ask me repeatedly why I was friends with these negative people, I finally realized there really was no good reason. The only reason I was still friends with them was because I had been for a while, and didn’t know how to end the friendship. If you can't explain why you like spending time with someone, even if the answer is "there's just something about them," then stop spending time with them.
You realize how much better off you are without them.
When you finally have a break from them for whatever reason, you realize that you’re more cheerful. When you hang out with other friends, you leave feeling good about yourself. You should only hang out with people who make you feel happy and supported, and who care about you as a person. Don’t feel bad about saying goodbye to a bad friend, they’re not worth your time in the first place.
