How To Be There For Someone When You Don't Know What To Say

If You Don't Know What To Say, Here's Are 25 Ways To Be There For A Friend Who Needs You

Because actions always speak louder than words.


It's the season of change.

Whether it's in the leaves, the weather, or our personal lives, it's natural to be in the middle of an evolving time. We all fight our own daily battles and sometimes we can get so caught up in our own lives that we forget to check up on the people who mean the most to us. As we may be experiencing our uphill climbs, the people who we love could be facing their own personal Everest. You may be asking yourself, well what can I do?

The unique thing about problems in our own lives is they are personalized to our selves, which can make understanding someone else's hardship more difficult. Sadly, we are all not gifted with the ability to say the right thing at the right time to help our friends.

Even if you're at a loss of comforting words, that doesn't mean you are helpless and unable to be a good friend. Instead of sitting with your hands behind your back, here are some things you can do that silently say all the right things to the friend who needs to hear it the most.

1. Randomly text a paragraph saying all your favorite things about them.

2. Handwrite a card featuring an inspirational quote or Bible verse.

3. Take the time to watch their favorite television show or movie and discuss it with them in order to get their mind on something new. 

4. Email a link to a blog post that discusses similar things they are going through.

5. Surprise them with their favorite candy.

6. Tag them in funny videos on Facebook or Twitter.

7. Pick up the tab at lunch.

8. Bring them their favorite coffee in the morning.

9. Invite them over for a relaxing night in.

10. Offer to simply be there for them and listen to what's going on.

11. Provide a good hug.

12. Bake them some cookies or offer them to come over and bake with you.

13. Drive them to a local animal shelter to volunteer and play with puppies.

14. Have a movie night with a blanket fort.

15. Take a walk in the city together to talk about everything going on.

16. Clean their dishes for them or any little domestic chores to make their life easier.

17. Plan a dinner with all of your friends at their favorite restaurant.

18. Offer to take something off of their plate and do it for them. For example: Get their car washed or pick up their dry cleaning.

19. Make sure they're getting out of the house and offer to simply take them for a drive or to the grocery store. 

20. Bring them flowers.

21. Remind them how much God loves them.

22. Bring over chocolates.

23. Be patient with them and understand they may not feel like themselves to do things you usually do together.

24. Remind them how much they are loved and how they are not alone.

25. Finally, simply be there for them whenever they may need you and listen to what they may really need during this difficult time. 

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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It's starting to hit me.

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Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

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I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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