I have not even finished this book and I had to tell you all about it. So far I have learned about actions, forgiveness, and self-fulfillment. Some of the best advice I have learned are these six quotes.
1. “My definition of stupid is wasting your opportunity to be yourself.”
How many times have I said no because of how it will reflect on me. Many times. There is a difference between having self-respect and holding yourself back. Don't turn down something because it's stupid or "weird." SCREW that! Life is too short to care about the opinions of others. To be completely honest they're jealous that they don't have the guts to do it themselves.
Takeaway: Being yourself doesn't make you weird, it makes you more courageous than everyone else.
2. "Find a way to laugh at least once a day. That was my prescription."
Don't let negativity keep you down. No one goes throughout a day without a setback or negative encounter. But, it is when you respond to these moments with positivity and grace that builds good character and respect. Laughing it off has never failed me. A lot of my favorite moments are when I laugh at myself.
Takeaway: Don't take life too seriously, laughing turns some of these moments into positive memories.
3. "So don't withhold forgiveness from somebody — it doesn't hold the other person hostage, it keeps you down."
Christy explains how many times we have uttered the phrase, "Well I've forgiven them... but I still kind of hate them." I'd be a hypocrite if I said that I hadn't thought that many times myself. There is a difference between saying you forgive someone and actually forgiving them with your heart, mind, and soul.
Takeaway: You have no room in your life to keep a so-called "Hate List." Just get over it, you'll be better off in the long run.
"Last but not least, work on making eye contact. It's just a tiny detail, but it could make the difference between being just another shifty-eyed shrinking violet and getting the big job."
When speaking with others, I always notice if someone maintains eye contact. Eye contact shows you care and are actively listening. But if you are like me sometimes I look at the person, then look away, and repeat that so I can keep myself focused. All in all it never hurts to look someone in the eye.
Takeaway: Active listening is important, and eye contact can help.
5. "They say actions speak louder than words. That is true, but one bad verbal slip up could mean the tarnishing of a hard-earned reputation."
Oh, I hate it when I say something dumb or mean. This is because once you say it, it's out there and it becomes a statement that people use to identify you. "Oh my god, remember when she said this," they'll say. But I follow the notion that as long as you apologize or correct yourself afterward you become a person who is respectable.
Takeaway: It is never weak to admit your wrong, it's admirable to understand the notions of others.
"The sheer number of 'likes' and 'whatevers' in my own daily speech is horrifying, not to mention the vulgarity and idiocy found in the average comments section of any internet article."
Everyone can contest to seeing hundreds of thousands of presentations where for over half of it you hear the phrase "like." It's awful because once you start to pay attention to it you can't hear anything else. Keeping this in mind I always practice what I am going to say beforehand in order to familiarize my self with the information.
Takeaway: By practicing speaking with conviction and good pace you can sound confident and very intelligent.