Growing up, I had always heard parents say not to worry, that college boys were so much better than high school boys because they had more time to mature. They were wrong. Just because they are in college and have more responsibilities does not mean that they are now intelligent in the world of girls by any means.
High school boys are definitely worse on the boy spectrum because they are still into your typical “bathroom jokes” and think that actually picking on girls will get their attention, but college boys are certainly not better. In my experience, college boys have had a little more time to mature, but they have also had the time to view their new stomping grounds and find their place on campus. Once they have assumed the reputation that their frat has given them, there’s no going back. I don’t really understand what it is with boys and their brotherhood but for some reason, to them, single is better. This is their time to not be tied down, to play the field, keep their options open. Need I say more?
I’m not saying all college boys are like this, there are always exceptions to the rule - and plenty of them do settle down, but normally not right away. What I am saying is: girls, guard your hearts. Don’t be so quick to give your heart out to the first boy who pays attention to you or invites you to his fraternity events. Be patient, and wait for the man that puts in the effort to win your heart. I know college is fun, and having boy’s attention is fun, but that’s all it is - fun.
Go into college with an open mind, don’t judge every guy you meet, but make sure you get to know their character and learn their reputation (if they have one). College boys are crafty and sometimes they will say anything and everything to get you right where they want you (which is probably where your mom told you exactly not to be.)
I, and I’m sure most high school and college girls, have had first hand experience with boys who are really only interested in one thing, and it certainly wasn’t my personality. I implore and encourage all girls to not give their hearts away so quickly, but to enjoy their girl time and get to know a good group of guys that seem promising. Go out on dates, laugh, get to know each other!
A guy texting you and inviting you to his fraternity’s darty is not a date. He will most likely say a quick hi and then ditch you to talk to 15 more girls that he or his pledge brothers have invited and then continue to play beer pong. Guard your hearts ladies and hang in there. Your prince charming is out there and your carriage is waiting, don’t settle for anything less.
