We all see it in movies, the shy girl falls in love with the popular jock and then something bad happens and she gets dumped... but then she always gets her happily ever after. This isn't how the real world works. Getting dumped in real life sucks. Especially after your first love. The first time you realize you love someone is such a special feeling and to share that with another person makes it 10x more special, and when that all comes crashing down it can be pretty hard to deal with. I'm here to tell you that you can get through it and here's how:
First, you gotta cry. Cry until you run out of tears. Punch a pillow and scream at the top of your lunges. Chances are you have a solid amount of anger and you can't let that bottle up, and crying is just plain old healthy. I promise after doing this you'll feel better. I always used to be a firm believer in staying positive and putting up a strong front was the way to make it all better, but i was wrong. It's okay to be sad. Be as sad as you want. give yourself a whole day to wallow in your sadness, and then pick yourself up. which leads me to point number two.
Second surround yourself with people who build you up. Don't let anyone who isn't on your side into your brain. Having good friends and family can be the ultimate game changer and i can tell you from personal experience this is the pivotal point. Indulge yourself in advice from your loved ones. This is what they're here for. I could go on forever with quotes from my friends and family that have stuck with me but this one really hits home. "Everything happens for a reason. Everything will be okay. Life truly does go on, and all good things in all good time." They're simple words but they mean the world to me, and without them or this amazing friend, who knows where I'd be. Also if you can, hug your mom. Because we all know a hug from mom can fix just about anything.
Third find what makes you happy. Experiment and figure out what takes your mind off things. Whether it's a sport, music, or just being with friends, find it and do it. a lot. Personally, mine is going to the gym. I got on this health kick right before my most recent breakup and I'm pretty thankful for it. I remember getting home from the gym and thinking "wow. that was the one hour out of the day that how sad I am didn't even cross my mind." And that was the most relieving feeling in the world. It sent me miles forward in emotionally feeling better about the whole situation.
If doing these things doesn't help you, then here's my advice to you: You can only go up from here (also a message from one of my dearest friends). Focus on yourself and make you a better version of yourself. Be bold. Try new things. Go out of your comfort zone and who knows what could happen. There's no question that a broken heart can quite easily be the worst feeling in the world, but there is also no question that there is most definitely a cure and most definitely a bright side to every situation. Find that bright side and don't let yourself forget it.
