5 Ways To Become Your Own Support System
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5 Ways To Become Your Own Support System

Give yourself importance.

5 Ways To Become Your Own Support System

We all go through stressful and horrific events in life and we begin to question why things do not go as planned. Perhaps you are on the brink of losing a friend due to a misunderstanding, perhaps you try to do things with good intentions but it does not work out as planned, or perhaps you commit a grave mistake that you are afraid will haunt you. You may lose a loved one, you may fail one of life's exams. Sometimes people may dissapoint you and your expectations may be let down. Sometimes you feel like crying or looking for someone to confide in.

Sometimes the only person that can help you is yourself. We as humans are incredibly social individuals and find it comfortable to speak to people about our troubles, but it important to realize that the best support is the one that comes from within. People constantly like to play the blame game, even though we all make the same mistakes. Chances are, if you have done something you regret, there may be someone else in the world who has done the same thing. The point is: you should never live with regrets of the past or allow others to put you down when you know you have moved on or are better than all of the things that lie within your negative atmosphere. There are definitely ways you can cope with all of the negativity. Here are the five things you can do:

1. Focus on yourself and not others

We often spend a huge portion of our lives focusing on what others think and not focusing on ourselves. We can try our hardest to make others happy, but some people can never be satisfied. Try to focus on yourself because you are important and no one should tell you different.

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2. Reassess the situation

Know that sometimes people make rash judgements and decisions. Do not be around people who doubt you or do not believe in you. But also do not drive people away or hold grudges. Know that everyone has different ways with coping with situations as do you. Even if you feel negatively towards others, do not let that negativity consume you.

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3. Distract yourself

Distract yourself from stressful situations. Take a 10 minute break (or however much time is possible) and exert your energy on something else, however small it is. For example, watch a comedy show (like Gabriel Iglesias on YouTube) or do some homework if you are having trouble with a friend or relationship. Get yourself to do something that gets your mind off of unnecessary things. At times, you may have to take matters into your own hands. There are always self help guides or national health hotlines.

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4. Change your atmosphere/environment

If you are stuck in your room at the time during which you are upset, go outside into nature and get a breath of fresh air. Stare at the clouds or the stars. Allow the wind to blaze through the trees and watch the leaves sway. Be thankful for other things in life. Let go of your frustrations. Although your frustrations are valid to have, they are toxic.

5. Do what makes you happy

Do things that bring a smile on your face. It could be drawing, it could be sewing, knitting, singing Karaoke, planting seeds, listening to music (Norah Jones might be a relaxing option), cooking something from Pinterest, running around, shooting some hoops, and in general — just giving yourself time to relax. Take away the pain and the burden on your shoulders by living life with the pursuit of happiness. Learn to love yourself.

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