Recently (and not by choice), I have become a single flamingo! During this time, I am slowly starting to realize that everyone is always either looking for a relationship or looking to not be alone. I, on the other hand, have decided to stay single until I get my feet on the ground again, and it surprisingly has felt very good. Here is how to be happily single:
1. Realize you do not need another man/woman to make you happy! Whenever you are out and about whether it’s hanging out with friends or at a party, don’t be looking for someone to latch onto. Own the fact that you can make yourself happy because that is the basis of a happy life.
2. Focus on yourself! Allow yourself to be selfish about the things you care about or want to do. Don’t give anyone the power to tell you what to do. Be yourself and do what you want! If you want to shove a whole pizza in your mouth, do it! If you want to dance your butt off, do it! Stop worrying about what others think, and don’t worry about impressing anyone. People will either admire you for doing what you want, or they’ll laugh at you, which believe me, makes for a great story later on.
3. Buy things for yourself! You have all this extra money now, and go out and buy something for yourself even though you probably can’t afford it. If buying that totally too expensive makeup palette makes you happy, do it! If paying for another month of Netflix makes you happy, do it! People always say, buying things can't make you happy, but let me tell you if treating yourself doesn't make you happy, you aren't buying the right things! Allow yourself the luxury of treating yourself!
4. Surround yourself with stress free things that make you happy! Get involved with coloring, or pick up a book you’ve always wanted to (or know you should) read. Relax yourself. Life is hard enough without you attempting to sabotage yourself.
5. Be content with yourself! I got this advice a while ago, yes reach for the stars, but don’t be upset when you fall short. Be content with being able to keep a roof over your head and a bed to sleep in. Be content that your friends have your back, and be content that you’re breathing and living in this world. It’s a state of mind, but once you reach the state of being content, you’re golden.
You don't need to be in a relationship to be happy, and once you stop searching for a relationship or someone to fill an empty void in your life, you can truly be the happiest person you can be. All good things come in time, and anything meant to be will come. So take some stress off yourself to find someone. They will find you, but for now, be single and enjoy it! While you're single, give yourself the luxury of being happy!
