Okay, this article is for the fellas but ladies feel free to chime in on some things I may miss. How can a guy appeal to a college girl? Being as educated as they are, most guys think they have it down pat on how to catch a girl's eye; but, for those who always think she's "playing", here are some tips when it comes to trying to get a college girl during this cuffing season.
Speak
How will you know that she knows that you exist, if words are not exchanged? The first encounter does not have to be this long drawn out speech of how you admired her from afar in math class, just make sure she knows your name. Speak with confidence and comfort, do not be nervous, girls do not bite.
Be Mature / Respectful
We are in college, that 'Aye, ma' 'Aye, shawty' stuff will not fly with any woman on the collegiate level (or above). Approach her with respect, smile, and introduce yourself WITH CONFIDENCE. Just that goes a long way.
Also, if she really catches your eye, compliment her (we love those). It does not always have to be compliments on her outfit, but maybe the way she carries herself. If you all share conversation, compliment her on her answer or educated opinion on something. This advice may seem like a no brainer, but you would be surprised how sparingly it is used.
Its not all about material things.
If you have a car, cool. If you have a job, great...but that does not decide whether or not you will get the number or not. Spitting game does not have to involve being flashy, in fact, it is a turn off. Remember, girls are in school to get a degree to get their own (money, job, home, etc.) therefore, they are not going to add cool points to guy with a black card. Do not get me wrong, being able to support yourself is something great, but it should not be the sole reason why she is on your arm.
Do not try to make a move at a party.
Come on now, this is one of the worst places to try to get at her. Everyone is just trying to turn up, plus you do not want her to think that you do not know how to stay in the house. Most of the time, numbers gained at parties are lost, blocked, or neglected by the end of the semester. You want her first recollection of you to be something memorable. Maybe outside of the cafe, near the library, on the quad...anywhere except a party. If you do catch her at a party, and you have some form of contacting her (snapchat, instagram), make sure she made it back home safe.
Have confidence
"She'll never like me," "I am not her type," are the two most common phrases to put yourself out of the game already. How do you know what she likes or what her type is if you have not gotten to know her? Gentlemen, do not fall for the social media hype that her dream guy is a 6'5 football playing pre-med student. Approach her with confidence and you will definitely stick in her mind. Confidence is one of the top traits anyone admires.
Be yourself (don't try to flaunt)
This goes along with the whole 'Do not mack too soon,' part. Be yourself! How will she know who she is talking to if you act two different ways? Of course we all act differently around our friends verses in a professional setting, but show her who YOU are. It is okay to be nervous, we are all human, in fact some girls think it is cute when you are nervous. Relax, talk to her, and listen to her.
Learn to Actively Listen
I do not know anyone who talks to brick walls for a living, so do not be that one who starts a trend. When she speaks, listen; give her your undivided attention. You both will learn so much about the other through verbal conversation.
Dress to Impress
Most schools host a 'gentlemen' day throughout the week, participate in this day at least once or twice...and make sure you run into her during one of these instances. A man in a suit is a nice distraction. Though this should be common information, make sure you dress well. Of course, the external is not what it is all about, but it does factor in. Sagging pants and oversized shirts are not as much of a trend as they were before (thank goodness). Just make sure your casual wear is presentable.
Do Not Get Caught Up In the Chase
Do not get so googley-eyed until you do not even see what is right in front of you. Incase things do not go in your favor, do not fret. Sometimes things do not work out in our favor, and that is fine because better is coming. In that case, do not get so blinded that you do not see that maybe she is not feeling you. Although, you may be affected, do not show it. Be mature, show that you all are able to be friends, and move past things.
