The type of household a person was raised in says a lot about how they're going to act as they get older and possibly how they are going to raise their kids in the future. There are a slew of parent types and ways that they choose to show love to their kids. In my family's case, we are constantly picking on one another and making jokes. If someone in my family doesn't joke around with you, or doesn't pick on you, they really must not like you (sorry to my past boyfriends that my mom didn't like). It is important that we understand how the different ways people were raised affects the way in which they show love and affection.
As already mentioned in my case, households that almost always pick on one another or poke fun with each other use those tools as a way to show each other that they care. When they don't pick fun at you, that's when you have to worry. Likewise, this also helps create tough skin. People that are typically able to take a joke as well as dish it out have relatively tough skin and do not get offended easily. Nowadays there's a lot of talk about how kids are behaving more sensitively. While yes there are more things we need to be conscious about and times that we do need to make sure we are politically correct, it is important that we don't lose touch with having this tough skin. Having tough skin means being able to take criticism without getting upset or offended. No, you should not take racists jokes or sexists comments lightly at all. Those are things that should be taken offensively. However, when an employer tells you that you need to do better at something, you should not take it as a personal attack or take offense to it. It is hard in this millennial age to find young people that understand that difference, but people that were raised in these overly-joking environments typically do.
Piggy backing off the idea of households that joke a lot are those that are super hard on one another. While no, I do not agree that you should be constantly criticized by your parents or loved ones, it is how people show love. It is often exemplified in coaches. When a coach is super hard on you, or constantly critiquing you, it is understood that they are doing it because they care about you as a player. It can be safely assumed that they grew up in households--or were coaches in the past--with people that projected this onto them as a way of showing them that they care.
It is hard to understand that not every one was raised the same way and that not every one shows love the same. We have to do our best to take into consideration that we may show love differently than other people do. With that being said, we have to be open to the ways that other people show that they care and try to be accepting of it. Whether it's a teammate that is hard on you during games, a coach that's always critiquing you, or a friend that constantly picks on you, you have to understand that they are doing it because they love you. If they didn't act that way, then you should be worried.
