Articles like this have been published before, but I have never felt like they accurately covered the topic. Women with sarcastic tendencies have different ways of displaying their affection, of handling problems, and of keeping up relationships, and if you want to be close to her, you have to know what “close” looks like for her.
1. She makes fun of you.
This is the first sign that she’s comfortable with you. If she makes fun of you constantly, it means that she trusts you enough to know that she’s just kidding around, and she trusts that you’ll let her know if she has overstepped a boundary. It means that she trusts you not to think she’s mean, rude, or conceited; she trusts you to know that her jokes are just that: jokes, and to know that if she didn’t love you as much as she did, she wouldn’t make them.
2. She takes it as well as she dishes it out.
If you can't playfully insult anyone else, you know you can with her. She knows that you should never, ever give what you can't take back. She doesn't take herself too seriously either, so when you make fun of her, she actually feels closer to you. But this only applies if she really does feel loved by you; she has to understand that it is all in jest and that you deeply care for and respect her character. In other words, you don't make fun of things that are extremely sensitive to her, and make sure she knows how much you love her. Otherwise, this may not apply (but you can usually tell if she can't take it anymore; she'll stop dishing it.)
3. She'll tell you exactly what she thinks.
This is actually a really big deal. She likely has become sarcastic over time, learning that it’s a way she can express her thoughts and feelings without having them be taken too seriously. But, if you introduce her to your new girl/boyfriend then ask what she thinks, you can trust that she will be completely honest. She won’t be mean, but she definitely won’t lie to you if there’s something she sees that she doesn’t like. She also will tell you straight up what you should do if you ask her opinion on what to wear.
4. She'll tell you when something is wrong.
You know that age-old stereotype that if you ask a girl what’s wrong, she’ll say “nothing” even though there clearly is? She’s probably not like that. She’s learned that being honest produces better outcomes than lying about anything almost ever could. So, when you ask her if something’s wrong, she’ll be straight with you. She may say no, or she may just nod and, if she doesn’t want to talk about it, she’ll tell you (or make it clear.) Because she loves you, she believes you deserve to know what’s up with her, but also trusts you to be sensitive to it if she tells you something’s up.
5. She gets deep with you.
She may be honest about things, because she doesn’t believe hiding opinions is the way to live life. This doesn’t mean that she tells everyone her life story: her pain, her struggles, her past struggles, what her heart bleeds for, or even the things that make her heart swell with happiness. No, she won’t show very many people any of that.
Sarcasm, no matter what anyone tells you, is a way to say things without giving away too much. When she truly trusts and cares about you, she will get real with you about where she’s been. When she loves you, you will know more about her than anyone who assumes that they know all about her without asking anything.
When she loves you, she’ll tell her how much she loves the way the moonlight sparkles on snow. She will tell you that she actually really loves being held when she is feeling down, and she loves being picked up because it makes her feel safe. She’ll tell you what she truly fears. And, when you remember it and help her through it, she will love you even more.
When it comes down to it, the sarcastic girl may be the one that you remain friends with longer than anyone. Once she cares for you, she always will, because she’s honest with you and with herself about her feelings, and knows that there are few things that really can’t be moved past with a little humor, honesty, and a lot of love. She’s the girl that will be your wing man, the one you bring shopping because she won’t lie to you, and the one you can take on a friend date without any romantic assumptions or expectations. Even if you haven’t talked to her in a year, she’ll be there for you.Once she truly loves you, she’s your forever friend.
