Confidence, something most of us struggle with for basically our entire lifes. There is no “magic” formula on how to be confident and no classes at school that will teach us how to be confident. Because if that were the case, I would be all over it. The truth is, confidence cannot be taught or earned over night. Being truly confident in yourself comes over time, and I mean years and years. This is nothing to be ashamed of it’s actually a good thing.
Although I am no expert on being confident, I have learned a couple of things over time to help me with my occasional “confidence boost."
- DO NOT ever compare yourself to someone else. Not only is this degrading to you, but you have to understand that each persons is different. Everyone has their own battles and devils they're facing. Even if a person seems perfect, EVERYONE has their own flaws, and everyone is beautiful in their own unique way (cliche I know, but it is SO true). Also, always remember that even if you see beauty in someone else, it does not mean that you are any less beautiful.
- LOVE YOURSELF. This is a lot harder than it seems. Be easy on yourself, and always remember you are your hardest critic. The flaws you see in yourself other people never notice. And even if you do have flaws (which everyone does) love them too. As hard as it seems your flaws are what make you, you. So embrace it.
- You’re always going to have your “off” days. Those days where you just don't feel yourself and all you want to do is huddle under layers of blankets and eat an entire jar of peanut butter followed by a pint of ice cream. And that's okay. Nobody always feels 100% themselves or “on top of the world”. But it is important to love yourself even through those crappy days.
- Surround yourself with people who lift you up and not down. The people you surround yourself with effect you a lot more than you might think. Help yourself by getting rid of any of those “negative” friends or people you might think are holding you back. Because chances are if you think they’re not a good influence on your, they probably aren't and you could do way better without them in your life.
- Be yourself. Nothing is more confident and sexy than doing and being who you want to be. And do not let anyone tell you how you should be or act.
Building confidence in a sense is building your character. Gaining confidence is suppose to take a life time, and isn't going to be a piece of cake. But don't worry, were all in this together.
" A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on its on wings. Always believe in yourself."
