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Here's The Truth On How Often College Students Are Having Sex

Are the stereotypes true?

Sarah Lane

Nov 19, 2018

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Thanks to hookup culture and multiple dating apps, it's a huge stereotype that college students are having a bunch of sex. Even if they're in a committed relationship, we still believe that because college kids are young and wild, they're sleeping together whenever they possibly can.

As someone who has frequently written about, thought about and talked about casual sex, I had to ask myself—how often are college students really having sex? Is it more or less than I would expect?

Well, after asking this question to a variety of college students, here are the responses I found.

Actually... I'm a virgin.

This one came as a shock to me. MANY college students who responded to my survey said they were still a virgin! Thinking about the people I know and the stories we share, I was only expecting maybe three or four people who responded to my survey to say they were a virgin, but this was actually much more common! Here's what some of them had to say:

"I'm a virgin and have always been single. Totally okay with that. Sex just seems unnecessary and doesn't always happen for the right reasons." - Female, age 18

"I'm not having sex because I'm committed to being abstinate until I get married for personal and religious reasons. I truly believe that's what's best for me and my future marriage." - Female, age 21

"I'm scared of affection." - Female, age 20

"I've never had sex because I don't know how to put a condom on and I'm honestly just waiting for a good woman to be my first." - Male, age 21

"I'm 23 and still a virgin, so the stereotypes don't apply to everyone." - Female, age 23

"Virginity rocks." - Female, age 19

Um, sometimes.

The number of responses I had that were some variety of "occasionally" dominated my survey. Here is a small sampling:

"I've had a hookup here and there but it's not often." - Female, age 22

"One weekend a month... I make up for the whole month within the weekend." - Female, age 20

"Once a month. I 100% could have sex more with different partners but my heart is still with my ex." - Male, age 22

"At least once a week. Maybe once a weekend." - Female, age 21

When you're an a LDR, it's so much harder.

For some people, distance puts a limit on the amount of sex they can have. Here's what those individuals had to say:

"It's only during every visit aka every three to five months." - Female, age 20

"I don't go to the same school as my boyfriend so we do it a LOT more in the summer than we do in the school year simply because we're together more." - Female, age 20

"I have sex seven times a month. My husband is stationed 800 miles away and I see him a week/month." - Female, age 20

All. The. Damn. Time.

Listen, some people just really love sex, and that's okay!

"I have sex AT LEAST a few times a week. Sometimes seven times a week. Sometimes multiple times a day." - Female, age 21

"One to three times a day. Some days it's more than five times in a day. My partner and I have really high sex drives." - Female, age 22

"Basically every day, but usually twice a day on Saturdays. I like sex." - Female, age 21

Regardless of the number of times you're having sex, the number of partners you have (or don't have), or your sexuality, I think this boss ass babe hit it right on the head with this response:

"If you're doing it safely, using a condom with birth control and regularly getting checked, have as much sex as YOU want. If it makes you happy, seriously do it." - Female, age 21

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"If you're doing it safely, using a condom with birth control and regularly getting checked, have as much sex as YOU want. If it makes you happy, seriously do it." - Female, age 21

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The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

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Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

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