How Moving To A New City Alone Changed Me

How Moving To A New City Alone Changed Me

Meaningful lessons and tips that worked
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Although, I have a gypsy spirit, I feel a strange pulling at my heartstrings when I uproot and find myself trying to build a life in a new place.

This past move was particularly difficult for me. Maybe, because I am finally "on my own" and in the "real world".

But as the saying goes, life beings when you leave your comfort zone. Here are the lessons I've learned that have not only challenged me but have pushed me to grow.

Remind yourself daily how courageous you are

It takes bravery to decide you are going to uproot everything, pack your life into tiny boxes, and move into the unknown. You no longer have that safe place and are faced with having to create it, again. Tell yourself that you are strong and brave then believe it!

Lose your fear of solitude

Give yourself the gift of independence and establish that quality from the start. The worst thing you can do is allow yourself to have a crutch. All you need is you.

Treat it as an adventure

Living in a new place is a great opportunity to experience new things and to grow as a person. So stay positive, get out there and explore!

Take Initiative

When you have the opportunity to get out, take it. It may feel awkward at first, but there isn't anything wrong with grabbing a book and enjoying the sunshine a little.

Reach out

Introduce yourself to your neighbors and everyone else you meet. Tell them you are new in town. It's the best way to get advice and tips about living in your area and making new friends.

Locate the necessities

Driving, riding, or walking around your new neighborhood is the best way to learn where everything is.

Find what you love

Seek out the things you've always enjoyed. Just because you are in a new place doesn't mean you have to give up your hobbies and interests.

Appreciate the differences, don't compare them

No living situation will be the same. While it is wonderful to reflect on past living spaces, it is unhealthy to pine away for what once was. Embrace all new parts of your home that you will grow to love rather than focusing on what it lacks.

Find beauty in the small things

"Stop and smell the roses" is a beautiful mantra to live by. Whenever you feel like you're forgetting to be grateful, take a moment to be appreciative of the things around you, no matter how insignificant they may be.

Maintain your relationships

ALL of them. Friendships, even long distance friendships, will help you feel stable and grounded when you feel your world is turned upside down.

Spend time in beautiful places

Whenever I feel sad, distressed, or worried I take myself somewhere beautiful. This is because my heart bursts with appreciation and I have the clarity to understand what I have to do to move forward and make myself feel better.

Stay true to yourself

Listen to the inner voice that is guiding you. It definitely knows best. Don't change yourself to be like everyone else or to keep up with them.

Be patient

It takes time to get to know a new place. So don't expect to feel comfortable right away. Give yourself time to adjust.


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Dear Soon-To-Be Seniors

These are a few things we'd like to tell you about Senior year.
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Dear soon-to-be high school seniors,

Goodbye. As the class of ahead of you, we've watched you grow, always one step behind us. As we graduate, there are some things I'd like to tell you about your last year of high school.

Yes, Senior year can be just as amazing as everyone says it is, if you make it that way. But don't think it's a blow-off year with no work. This year may hold some of the most stressful times of your life.Be prepared for late nights writing papers or hard tests that could make or break your graduation status. However, don't stress too much about homework. A question I often asked myself this year was, "in twenty years, will I remember staying up till 2am studying for Econ? Or will I remember a fun night with my friends?" Ok, probably not the best advice if you don't have the best of grades, but most of the time you stress yourself out for no reason and miss out on fun things.

Another thing, try to get on the college grind early. If you haven't already, start looking at colleges and applying! Then narrow it down as soon as you can. You don't want to be stressed about that decision in the last month of senior year. Honestly, the sooner you can make your decision, the happier and less stressed you will probably be.

It's not too late to join new things either; a lot of people join a sport or a club senior year and have a lot of fun because of it. So try that thing you've always wanted to join! Speaking of which, go to prom! I won't tell you prom is the best experience of your life because for some people it's not, but it's pretty amazing. Don't stress too much about getting a date, either the right guy/girl will show up, or you'll just go with your friends and still have a blast.

Don't be too rude to the underclassmen. You were that young just a few years ago. And they're the ones who usually put your senior nights together, so make sure you thank them. Also keep in mind that they are looking up to you. Remember those seniors you looked up to just a few short years ago? Be a good example. Take your place in the school as Seniors and continue where we left off; carry on the legacy of your school and be proud of it.

If your school does Kairos (or a similar senior retreat), be absolutely open to it! If it's your thing, enjoy it! If it's not your thing, still try to be open to it. You don't have to love it, but at least don't hate on it before you've even been. Bonding with your class is a big part of senior year. I made so many new friends this year that I never thought I would if it hadn't been for Kairos.

Speaking of which, be open to new friends. Whether they're seniors or not, talk to everyone. In a few months, you may never see those kids again, so it's worth getting to know them past just being friends on Facebook. Also, don't give up on dating people in your class. Yeah, there's only a few months left and you've spent the last 4 years with these people, but there might be one person out there who could change your whole year for the better if you give them the chance.

Above all, enjoy it. You only get one senior year, so make it count. Go to everything you possibly can: every football game, dance, party, musical, bonfire, etc. Enjoy wearing the jersey of your team for the last time, taking your last bow on your high school stage, and turning in your last final, because it will all be gone within the blink of an eye. You'll find yourself walking down the aisle in a cap and gown of those same school colors you thought you despised (but really, you'll secretly miss). You'll look at your favorite teachers lined up behind you and your family sitting in front of you, and most importantly your class around you, and I hope, I really hope, you don't regret a single moment of senior year.

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College Can Be Difficult, But Trust Yourself, Girl

Life can throw you curveballs sometimes, and times can get tough, but it is SO important to pick yourself up and trust that you can do anything.

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I'll be honest, this school year was one of the hardest years of my life. There were lots of moments throughout the year that I just wanted to go home and get away from it all. I had to be reminded that I have been raised to try as hard as you possibly can, and I was doing that. It took some determination and time, but I didn't give up.

No matter how bad I felt, I stayed and persevered.

Now that I am home for the summer, I have been reminiscing on the past two semesters of school. At the beginning of the school year, I had a much different idea of how it would go. It was going to be "my year," but somehow while the year was going on, I felt that I had been completely wrong. It's easy to come to quick conclusions when life doesn't exactly go your way. Conclusions like "this year has been the worst year ever" and "I can never get a break" were often popping up in my head. My grades weren't where I wanted them, and I was surprised by a lot of occurrences that I never expected to happen (imagine a wild ride). I found out who my true friends are and who I could rely on, and luckily, my circle only grew. Being extremely extroverted, it was hard for me to get out and just do something. Being in this "rut" took a toll on me. I had to make those hard decisions about doing what was best for me in the long run instead of doing something just for the moment. Trust me when I say, this was NOT easy at all.

Through all the tears and change all around me, I decided to proceed to the finish line because I am NOT a quitter.

I decided that it was time for me to allow myself to fully, undeniably be me. I wanted to start doing the little things I enjoy again like working out, taking pictures, and simply just going out to do anything. I started forcing myself to take any opportunity that came my way, and it helped. One of the things that brought me so much joy was kickboxing – talk about therapeutic, people! Kickboxing at least three times a week helped my mood shift so much, and it was a start to seeing me again. I am so blessed with friends who would come over at, literally, any time of the day. Spending time with them helped me more than they could ever know. We did anything from just hanging out in my living room to splurging on a fun dinner. Through everything that I was doing daily, I was learning how to rely on myself. Looking back now, I have never really had to know what it felt like to rely mainly on myself. I did get so much help from my family and friends, but what good could their help do if I didn't want to help myself first?

Even though I felt like this was one of the worst years of my life, it taught me so much more than I ever expected. Looking back now, I grew so, so much. I learned how to smile when times get tough. I learned that it really is okay to not be okay sometimes, and it will be okay eventually. I learned that it's okay to ask for help because we weren't made to do life alone. Most importantly, I learned how to trust myself. My hope for anyone reading this, you will learn from my experience that the worst seasons get better. I am in such a good place right now because I never gave up, and I will continue to never give up. In a short amount of time, I am seeing how far I have come and how much I grew.

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