Ever daydream about being in one of those cute, "scripted-like" relationships similar to "The Bachelorette," even though you know they don't really exist?
To those of you who are hopeless romantics, you dream of these relationships. And when you find a guy you think is "the one" there is always a catch. He is either arrogant, controlling or selfish.
Occasionally, he really is the whole package, but it's rare to find an all-around good guy. Even when you find a good guy, the timing isn't always right. There's always something that makes it hard to start a relationship.
Timing is everything.
If you just got out of a relationship you might be lonely, but it's too soon to move on. If you started a relationship too soon, you would always compare your new relationship to the old one. If you had a long, serious relationship, you might be loving your new sense of freedom and have no desire for another relationship.
When you're a "Single-Pringle," you may or may not be ready to mingle but that doesn't stop guys from reaching out to you whether you want them to or not. When guys approach you, how do you tell them the timing is just off?
You can try the let's be friends approach.
Guys will still try to push through that friend zone. They'll constantly use the word friend and ask to hang out just as friends. They'll tell you they just want to get to know you better.
You can tell them the timing isn't right.
Guys will try again in six months anyways. They'll say things like I'm not trying to rush things and that they wanna take it slow, but then a week later they go from zero to 100.
You can ignore him.
Most guys will get the hint and leave you be, or if they don't get the hint, they'll keep bothering you. But when you're finally ready for them, they'll ignore you back. What do you expect?
You can create an invisible boyfriend.
Guys will normally calm down if you say you have a boyfriend, or they'll be arrogant and say that they're better than him. Or that they just wanna hang out as friends and still try to make a move on you.
You can say you're too busy.
Guys will be nosy and ask you what you're doing every second of the day until you have time to hang out. They won't respect the fact you want personal down time to yourself and they'll try to push themselves in your schedule. They'll ask to come to sporting events with you that you'd rather be with your friends at, they'll ask to come to your dorm when you're busy doing your homework, they'll ask to hang out at your parent's house when you go home for dinner or they'll stalk you and run into you "coincidentally" and then you're forced to see them.
Guys like a challenge. No matter what you tell them, they will try to change your mind. But a guy once told me, "If you do everything possible to get rid of someone and they still stick around, maybe they're the one."
