Reconnecting with family means a lot of talking, alcohol, and questions. Everyone wants to know how you are doing, who are you dating, and what your plans are for the future. It can be a stressful time especially if you are single AF and have no idea what you are doing with your life, being a college student and all. Here are some tips to either answer questions gracefully or divert the attention to someone else.
The first thing to remember is that everyone is nosey, they want to know as much as possible because they probably won't see you until the next holiday. So the best thing to do is provide as many details about the positive things that happened so you can avoid any negative things that might have happened. For example, if you got a really good grade on a paper or exam, focus on that. Describe how long it took you to study, or gather research to write the paper. Then delve into the topic of the class and how hard the class is. This way all your family members will be impressed with how studious you are and they won't be able to say that you are a failure in college.
Now that you have hurdled all the school questions, family members will start focusing more on your social life. They will ask questions like how many friends do you have, what do you guys do for fun in your college town, and if you guys go to parties a lot. Whatever you do, do not focus on all the nights you spend drinking and going to frats or the bars. Make it known that you guys go spend time outdoors, seeing movies, and various restaurants. This way your uncles and aunts won't think your an alcoholic, but an actual productive adult.
Lastly, the most annoying and over asked question ever: "Are you dating anyone?". For all those people who are in happy relationships, then the answer is simple. But then the question of when everyone will be able to meet him/her comes up. The best answer is vague, like "soon", or "in the near future". However, if you are single, to avoid sad glances, saying "I'm talking to a few guys, but nothing is serious", would be your best bet. Even if it may not necessarily be true it leaves your family members with the idea that you are enjoying your single life and not sulking alone in your dorm room.
After a hectic few days, everyone will part ways and many hugs and kisses will be given. Family members will wish you good luck for the new year and you will be able to feel accomplished that you survived yet another family gathering unscathed.
Happy Holidays, Everyone!
