It seems as though everything has become about "relationship goals." Everywhere I look on social media someone is posting about what "goals" mean to them when it comes to being in a relationship. Some of these include pictures of people cuddling or going out to get food. When it comes to celebrity relationships, "goals" can sometimes be when one buys their significant other something really expensive or takes them out on a lavish date. Now, none of these are wrong and it's fine to admire other people and what they have done for themselves and others. However, it seems as though it's becoming a bit obsessive.
Like I said before, everything has become goals for people. Eating, sleeping, walking, literately everything! The posts are becoming too much and it starts to set people up for disappointment and failure. The reason being because we all expect the person we date to be like the people we glamorize in these "goal" pictures. We expect them to act the way we think these people act in these pictures and posts. We start to set our expectations so high that when we get anything less than what we've seen, we get upset and it can lead to arguments and ultimately breakups.
Now, this is not to say that people can't have standards and they should never settle for less than what they deserve. No, know your worth but also understand the things people do for you. Not every person you come across is going to hurt you. Understand that there will be people who will do everything and give up everything to give you the world, so don't get mad because they couldn't give you the stars. You should be able to see what people are doing for you without basing it off of a picture of people you probably haven't met. Don't equate money with happiness. Don't equate social media "fame" with happiness.
These are huge factors in why I have decided to keep my relationship as hidden from social media as possible. There are pictures here and there however, there's not a thousand Facebook posts about him or mushy flipgrams or anything remotely referring to him anymore. I've learned not to seek validation in my relationship from social media. I've learned that it's not about what other people have to say about my relationship because it's my relationship. The only other opinion that matters in this relationship is his. Not what some random Instagram handle has to say or some nosy classmate on Facebook. I won't go and post subliminal messages on Facebook about him if things aren't going well. That's just not something Facebook needs to know. I'll tell everyone we're good even if we aren't. Our issues are between him and myself, not with the internet. Having too much information out there can be dangerous for relationships.
Putting relationships out there can create a sense of vulnerability which can then lead to doubt and suspicion. Having all that information out there can lead to things getting twisted around and can hurt relationships. I am not saying that this is how it is for everyone. Everyone is different and deals with their social media and relationships differently. I am saying however, that in this age of social media fame, it can become harder to keep things private and to keep things real. I know what works best for me which is to keep things offline as much as I possibly can.
