How My Friends Helped Me Restore My Self Esteem

How My Friends Helped Me Restore My Self Esteem

After years of struggling with self-love, my best friends helped me up again.
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There was a long period of time around my early teens when I had a lot of issues with self-esteem. Yes, everyone had “this phase” as a grade-schooler or middle-schooler, but I was consistently convinced that I often endured bullying that was worse than the average 12-year-old girl. I mistakenly surrounded myself with people who made me feel like I was never good enough, pretty enough, thin enough, or smart enough.

The true problem with this was that I couldn’t shake it. Even after I recognized the toxicity of these people and removed myself from their environment, it did very little for my self-esteem. By then, I had been shot down so many times that it simply became ingrained into my mind: I was never enough at all.

There was a time in high school when I decided that hating myself because of what people thought of me made my life complete hell, and I needed to turn some things around. But it didn’t begin with me; it began with my real friends. The girls who knew about what I was dealing with and gave me the best friendships I could ask for.

Without even knowing it, my friends have given me so much of my self-esteem back. They inspire me every day as they forth with confidence and with grace, and I am driven by them to make better choices on how I view myself. It comes from the simple things. One of my friends brought me back a mug from Disney World one year that said, “You Have a Special Way of Making People Smile.” She could not possibly imagine the smile it puts on my face when I remember that it’s true.

Another one of my friends gave me a travel mug (I drink a lot of coffee, OK?) that reads “Today, I Woke Up Flawless.” Every time I use it, I remember, “Oh yeah, I’m flawless just the way I am” and I go about my day, ever so flawlessly. I’m not afraid to carry it around in public, or to ask the Starbucks barista to fill it up with my vanilla chai tea latte. I know that 12-year-old me would never have believed in herself enough to have the confidence to use it, but now I do.

A common theme that I’ve begun to weave in and out of my daily life stems directly from mugs like those: inspirational quotes. I am simply obsessed. I used to think they were cheesy, but now I’ve learned that there’s nothing like a Pinterest board full of them to remind yourself to be the best person you can be every day.

It doesn't stop there. I am grateful for the people who send me screenshots of inspirational quotes to start my day, and the people who don't end their nights without saying to me, "I love you and I care about you." I am grateful for the people who take time out of their day to say hello or bring sunshine to my life on a cloudy day.

There’s a difference between me relying on my friends to validate me, and taking matters into my own hands to improve my life in a positive fashion. I’ve taken the amazing qualities of friendship, loyalty and positivity that they exert onto me, and I am using them to be a better version of myself every day. I am more grateful than words could ever describe for my friends instilling the confidence in me to make better life choices and for reminding me to always see myself in a positive light. Thank you to everyone who inspired me to write this. You know who you are.

Cover Image Credit: Original Photo by Annie Condodina

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How To Play 'New Girl's' True American Drinking Game

"It's 75% drinking, 20% Candy Land, and the floor is molten lava."
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I think it's fair to say that anyone who watches New Girl knows about True American. This crazy, non-sense drinking game which pops up every so often throughout the seasons and first introduced in Season 1 Episode 20.

The game, as described by New Girl character and fan-favorite Schmidt, is 75% drinking game and 20% Candy Land with a floor of molten lava.

The point of the game is for players to navigate through the Candy Land-like spaces to the "castle," which is a table in the center of the room that holds beer "pawns" and the "king" bottle. The first person to reach and sip from the bottle wins.

SEE ALSO: 15 Things "New Girl" Fans Know to Be True

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Here's how to play:

Step #1: Prepare the "castle"

First, set up your "castle." The castle is made up of beer "pawns" and the "king," a bottle filled with the alcohol of your choice.

The bottle should be in the middle of the table, surrounded by four lines of beer pawns. There is no exact number of beers necessary for each line of beer pawns. Choose any amount of beers that seems appropriate for the amount of players.

Step #2: Set up spaces

Set up spaces using pillows, chairs or any other objects players will be able to stand on. Place an equal amount of spaces around the table. You'll want about 5-8 spaces on each side, depending on the size of the room you're playing in.

Only four of these spaces should reach the castle, lining up with the parade of beer "pawns" and allowing players to take a beer pawn from the castle. For example, in the photo above, each of the chairs touch a corner of the table at the end of the line of beer pawns. Therefore, these are two of the four special spaces that allow players to take a beer. Unlike the pillows pictured, which are just regular spaces that the players can use to move around.

Step #3: Pick teams

Teams are optional. To pick teams, all of the players will place a certain number (1-5) of fingers against their forehead on the count of three.

Any players who hold up the same number are a team. Unmatched players can team up as needed or simply pair up with the person standing closest to them.

Step #4: Begin

Begin with a shotgun "tip-off" to determine which player goes first.

The winner of this shotgunning contest will yell, "One, two, three...JFK!" to announce the official beginning of the game. All players will enthusiastically respond, "FDR!" then quickly grab a beer pawn from the castle and run to any space they wish to start at, excluding for the four special spaces that reach the castle.

Step #5: Make moves

The winner of the shotgunning contest has earned the first turn. From then on, the order of turns will move in a clockwise rotation. During each turn, the player will move one space toward the castle and choose to play one of the following mini-games.

Mini-game number one: the player whose turn it is will count to three then all players will place a certain number (1-5) of fingers on their forehead. Any player who selects a number no one else selected can move ONE space.

Mini-game number two: the player whose turn it is will recite the beginning of a famous American quote. The first player to complete the quote can move TWO spaces.

Mini-game number three: the player whose turn it is will name two famous American people, places or things. The first player to identify what the two have in common can move THREE spaces.

For example, say it's your turn. You will move one space then choose one of the three mini-games. You and all of the players will participate in that game, and the winner will move accordingly. After this, your turn is over and it's the next player's turn (in the original clockwise rotation).

Step #6: "Play on, playa."



Continue playing by these rules until one lucky winner reaches the bottle and sips from its royal glass.

The bottle cannot be opened until every last pawn is removed from the castle. Any players who fail to keep at least one beer in hand, who accidentally end up with more than three beers in hand, or who touch the lava are immediately disqualified. Disqualified players can rejoin the game by shotgunning a beer.

Congratulations!

You are now able to impress all of your New Girl-loving friends with knowledge of the workings of the epic True American drinking game. Know your limits, drink responsibly and enjoy!

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​10 Drinks That Are A Must For Summer

Summer is the perfect time to try something new!
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Now that school is out for most of yall, you are all feeling that summer loving. I am ready to try some new things. And that includes drinks. I have been searching on the internet and I think I have found some that I am down to try! From down-home classics to ones my clever friends have concocted your taste buds will be sure to thank you. I hope you all try these too!

Disclaimer: Y’all know, but I am going to say it anyways like a good seed: 21 and older to consume alcoholic beverages in the USA.

1. Moscato Margaritas

Wine about it no longer because you can mix a margarita with wine now! Wow, what an invention! So if you are hankering with mixes two of these fabulous types of alcohol look no further! For this recipe, I have found ones for pineapple, mango, and raspberry margaritas! Spice it up with these different flavors.

Ingredients:

Pineapple margarita:

- 1 ½ c frozen pineapple

-2 oz. freshly squeezed lime juice

- 2 oz. of silver tequila

- 1 oz. of triple sec

Raspberry Margarita:
- 1 ½ c of frozen raspberries

-2 oz. of freshly squeezed lime juice

- 2 oz of triple sec

Mango Margarita:

-1 1/2 c of frozen mango

- 2 oz. freshly squeezed lime juice

- 2 oz. of silver tequila

- 1 oz. triple sec

Directions:

  • Add salt in a small dish. Rim margarita glasses with lime and dip in salt to coat the rim.
  • For the margaritas: For each margarita add frozen fruits, lime juice, tequila, and triple sec and blend until smooth.
  • Pour into glasses. Take the mini Moscato bottles and flip into drink.
  • Enjoy!


2. Dry Ice Cocktail: Summer Edition

Honestly, if you have not seen these on the internet I encourage you to open up another tab and search them up immediately. Very cool! (Pun intended). Dry ice is available at Walmart and groceries stores such as Costco. Plan out when you are going to make this drink with the dry ice because it has a very short shelf-life. This is because it is constantly changing from a solid to a gas. SCIENCE!


Ingredients:

  • Vodka
  • Pink liqueur
  • Lemonade
  • Pomegranate juice (Or any type of juice you prefer)
  • Dry ice

Directions:

Combine liquids then add the dry ice and watch the magic happen! It is completely safe to drink (or else it wouldn’t be on the list, I’m not trying to poison you) the drink with the dry ice in it but do not eat the actual cube please!

4. Rose Gummies

My cute favorite little bears in candy form and a bomb wine! What could be a better summer treat?!

Ingredients:

  • 1 cup of rose wine
  • 1 ½ oz of gelatin powder
  • ½ cup of sugar

Optional ingredients:

  • Strawberries (diced)
  • Blueberries
  • Raspberries

Directions:

  • Heat wine in a microwave- safe container for 1 min or until hot
  • Mix sugar and gelatin into wine and stir with a whisk until dissolved.
  • Pour mixture into molds
  • Refrigerate for one hour

5. Blue Hawaii

Why take a trip to Hawaii when you can just taste in a drink? Yeah, I guess I still want to go Hawaii but hey this is a delicious drink.

Ingredients:

- 1 oz. rum

- 1 oz. curacao

- 2 oz. pineapple

- 1 oz. of cream coconut

- 1 cup of crushed ice

- 1 pineapple slice

- 1 cherry

Directions:

Mix and enjoy! This drink can also be made as a non-alcoholic drink! You can replace the curacao with Koolaid to give that blue look!


6. Birthday Cake Mimosa

Your friends and family member’s summer birthdays (or yours) are right around the corner and what better way to wish them well on their special; day than a birthday cake mimosa! Ingredients:

Ingredients:

  • Vanilla vodka
  • A scoop of birthday cake ice cream
  • Rose wine
  • Frosting
  • Sprinkles

Directions:

  • Combine vodka and wine
  • Dip glass rim in frosting and put sprinkles on top of it
  • Scoop ice cream and put into the glass
  • Toast to your loved one (or yourself) and enjoy!

7. Sex on the Beach

Ingredients:

- 1 1/3 oz vodka

- 1 1/3 cranberry juice

- 2/3 oz peach schnapps

- 1 1/3 oz orange juice

Directions:

Mix and enjoy! Can also be made non-alcoholic by using peach juice.

8. Hippie Juice

This drink will make you taste the freeness and sweetness of summer!

Ingredients:

- 1 cup of Smirnoff watermelon vodka

- 1/3 c triple sec

- 1/3 c of Malibu coconut rum

Directions:

Combine!

Source: My good seed Meg Fisher

9. Berry-Guava Lemonade

Gotta throw in something extra refreshing this summer!

Ingredients:

- 4 strawberries

- 2 tbsp of sugar

- 4 tbsp of guava juice

- 6 tbsp of lemon juice

- lemon slices

Directions:

Mash 4 diced strawberries with sugar and guava juice in a glass. Fill with ice, then add lemon juice and lemon slices. Done!

We have to throw in some classics in the mix as well!

10. Pina Colada

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Ingredients:

- 3 oz. Pineapple juice

- 1 oz white rum

- coconut cream

Directions: Mix and drink! No rum still makes for a delicious non-alcoholic drink!


Whip these up in your kitchen in 15 minutes or less! Then you are ready to rock, roll and enjoy your summer with these refreshing dranks!


Cover Image Credit: Vincius Amano

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