How Dying My Hair Helped Me Become The Princess I Always Wanted To Be

How Dying My Hair Helped Me Become The Princess I Always Wanted To Be

It really is better under the sea.

"Ay mira, she's just like Snow White!"

"Her dark hair and that fair skin! Looks like she has a Halloween costume all set when she's older!"

Please, I am not Snow White. Frankly, I never, ever want to be her.

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I was plagued with this my entire life. I was ALWAYS Snow White. My rosy baby face and dark black hair against my napkin-white skin made every Spanish relative I had call me "Blanca Nieve".

No. Por el amor de dios, no.

Snow White was nothing, absolutely pointless. She never had an original thought the entire movie, she could barely fend for herself when tripping and skirting through the forest, and married the first guy who kissed her awake. How in the world is that true love's kiss if the audience and you don't even know his name? (I mean, he is known officially as The Prince... seriously look it up.)

The princess I act the most like, and arguably with Emma Watson's rendition my favorite, is Belle. I'm a huge book worm, like her, and I'm constantly searching for the good in people, even if it is hard to find at first.

As I got older, I loved Rapunzel's sense of adventure, Anna and Elsa's sisterly love that can thaw a frozen heart, Tiana's drive to succeed and fulfill her dream, and Merida's "I don't need a man in my life" attitude. The Renaissance and New Age Princesses were much more my style and princesses I would be proud to tell my daughter to admire.

By high school I had made a pact. I would no longer be cute baby face Snow White (my face has not changed in nineteen years... serious lack of glow up). Everyone around me was changing, growing up, arguably getting hotter and more adult-y. I needed some sort of change to make the people around me finally realize that I was not a little girl anymore, despite what my cheeks may tell you. I wanted to grow up.

Going into senior year, I decided to change my hair color. Yeah, I know, it's not really a big deal, but to me it was. Although I loved Belle, black to brown wasn't that big of a change. I personally wanted purple, but my Cuban mother almost had a heart attack when I mentioned it.

We came to a compromise.


Ariel red.

Another absolutely amazing princess with a rebellious attitude and need for adventure.

Deep down, the hair change was also a promise to myself to not be a Snow White. I didn't want to be some girl on a bed of flowers waiting for a prince to come and kiss me and take me to his castle. I wanted to be fearless. I wanted to have the confidence to know that a man would one day see me in all that I am, all of my quirks and weirdness, and love every part of me.

My red hair is my confidence booster. Sure, it may just call for attention, but I always felt overlooked with my natural hair color. My friends and classmates in my senior year of high school took me seriously. They trusted me with writing scenes for our final projects. It helped me get the confidence I needed to nail my audition for a play. It helped me feel beautiful on prom night, without a date, when that morning was an absolute nightmare.

It's connects me to my amazing college crew and continues to make me smile and laugh louder everyday. I experiment with my makeup and clothes more. I'm not afraid to ask out a cute guy.

Snow White me and Ariel me are two completely different people, and the change is what I needed to help me get to where I am today. It's just hair. It grows out. Red fades out fast. But when it's red velvet cupcake red, I feel like I can rule the world.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs.

In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm...

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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My Hair Journey After Box Bleaching My Hair

Although it may seem cheap and easy, the reality of box bleaching your hair is disastrous. Professionals, this article is dedicated to you.


In 2017, I made the disastrous decision to box bleach my hair that I am still paying for today.

It seemed cheap, easy, and was something fun I could do at midnight. Little did I know, this would be a choice that I would still be regretting to this day. Besides the awful reality of box bleaching your hair, such as the chemicals in store hair dye already being disastrous for your hair, if you don't know what you're doing you not only run the risk of damaging your hair, having your hair fall out, but could also seriously hurting your scalp.

Follow me on my hair journey over the past two years and use this article to look back on if you're ever bored and in need for a change. Wait to go to a salon!

May 23rd, 2017.

Nichole Doty

I like to call this moment the calm before the storm. Back in 2017, I had long dark hair. I loved my hair and was very proud of how long I grew it. This is the longest my hair had ever been at this point in my life, and I absolutely loved it.

July 31st, 2017.

Nichole Doty

This was the day that everything changed. I made the terrible decision to not only box bleach my hair but to add box pink hair dye on the underneath of it. Not only did it look terrible, but it was also an irreversible decision that was made that I would have to live with for the next few years to come.

August 12th, 2017.

Kasey Bauner, (kasey_bauner via instagram), who works at Jay Marie Salon and Spa in Schereville, was able to save my hair in a beautiful way.

Nichole Doty

HALLELUJAH! My hot mess was fixed! Through hours and hundreds of dollars later spent at the salon, they were able to salvage my hair without shaving all of it off!

December 9th, 2017.

Nichole Doty

A few months later, after some length came in, that's when the roots started to appear. After the first glace at the outgrowth, I knew that I would have to keep chopping my hair until the roots fully grew out.

January 5th, 2018.

Nichole Doty

This was the first big chop I had to do since the box bleach disaster I did to my head. I knew that I didn't want to dye my hair back to its original color, so this began my repetitive cycle of hair growing out, getting a drastic chop, and growing it out again.

July 5th, 2018.

Nichole Doty

In July, my hair started to show more length since I had to originally chop it. My roots were starting to come in the dark so I had to try and wear hairstyles that would discretely cover how much my hair had grown.

August 31st, 2018.

Another big chop when school started in the fall of 2018. There's something so disappointing about having to keep growing out your hair just to chop it, but unfortunately, that's what I signed up for when I got myself into this mess.

November 29th, 2018.

At this point, my roots looked terrible. From the back of my head, the roots were growing towards the middle. I had to keep reminding myself that I couldn't see the back of my head so I could gracefully ignore how terrible it looked. Aside from this awful outgrowth I had going on, the color in my hair was starting to settle into a yellow mess.

January 31st, 2019.

Nichole Doty

As if I didn't learn my lesson from the first time, I started to experiment with different colors. I used the L'Oreal Colorista Semi-Permanent dye. I will say, though, this really is the most Semi-Permanent dye I have ever used as it would fully wash out in two weeks without any traces of color left behind.

April 25th, 2019.

I felt as though if I added different colors to my hair it would make the roots look more natural. As it did, I do NOT recommend the Kiss Tintation hair dye. This was the most patchy dye I have ever used, although I did love the blue.

May 12th, 2019.

Nichole Doty

As of just a few weeks ago, my hair was a big green mess. The dye would not leave my hair, so I started to panic that I really messed up this time. I could no longer wait at this point as I felt the frantic need to chop my hair.

May 23rd, 2019.

Nichole Doty

Here we have it! At the end of my journey thus far, I have managed to almost have all of my natural colors back! Although there are some green strands still left behind, I am mostly back to a full head of hair being the same color.

Overall, I want this article to serve as a warning to those who are like me and don't think through decisions properly. I'm the type of person when I want something I want it at that exact moment no matter what. My rash decision has led to poor self esteem and issues throughout these past two years. Am I being dramatic? Maybe. Maybe I'm like you who feels as though your hair is a big part of your identity and who you are as a person. Thank you for following my hair journey and remember: ALWAYS think through big decisions properly and wait to go to a salon to get your hair done!


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