“How can I tell if he really does like me?”
Being that you clicked on this article, this is a question that may be going through your mind. Many young people have asked this burning question in late night talks with their good friends. It almost seems impossible to read their signals. You catch yourself thinking, well they said this but what if they actually mean this? You are left to ponder and analyze what they actually meant. This can be so frustrating for a person. So, how can you really tell if they are truly interested in you or if they are just wasting your time with games? There is a really easy and infallible way to find out your answer. If someone really likes you, they will prove it to you and you will feel it without a single doubt in your mind. Here are some ideas:
The first thing that I am going to bring up is the “now you see me, now you don’t” act. It is beyond infuriating when you talk to someone and you begin to feel yourself growing close to them and then out of nowhere, they just go MIA for a few days and then message you again acting as if nothing happened. Clearly something was up and you question if they came back because they really like you. Obviously, if this is happening between you and the other person constantly, it is a blatant red flag that they do not care. It does not matter to them if you talk to them or not. If they stop replying for days at a time, constantly without reason. If this is a recurring incident, please move on my friend. There are consistent people out there believe me.
Another thing that goes along with going missing for days at a time is the excuses that usually come along with the absence, “I was really busy” or “ I had no time.” No one is always busy all week. Notice that I put an emphasis on the word always. Of course, we all have our own lives to live and things to do but absolutely no one is always too busy. People have down time during even their busiest days. It all depends on what you actually mean to them if they “can” talk or not. If you mean something to someone, they will make time for you. They will send small texts or call to see how you are. Even the smallest gestures like this will show they care. If someone claims they were too busy to even check up on you in even a text (that takes legit 20 seconds) for days, it is time to move on from that person. You deserve to be a priority, not just convenience.
If you notice that this person always bails on plans, this is a red flag as well. This idea goes along with being a priority, not just an option that is available when it is convenient for them. If every time you make plans with the person, they have some excuse as to why they cannot come anymore, that should be an unmissable sign that they don’t care if they see you or not. If they’re always “too tired” or “have things to do” ( and I mean every time), you are not a priority of theirs and it is time for you to move on my friend. If someone likes you, they will make time for you and stick to your plans. In fact, they will be more than excited to come see you and hangout.
In all, it is really simple to tell if a person is interested or not. Look at the person's actions rather than their words. If someone says something but acts differently, believe their actions. A person that is into you will put forth effort into communication and meeting up with you. The person will not always find an excuse as to why they haven’t been around or why they can never see you. If you matter to them, if you are a priority, then they will make time for you. You should never settle for less than that. You deserve to feel important and more than just an option. If a person is interested, their actions will prove it. It is as easy as that.
