How To Answer Questions About Your Future

How To Answer Questions About Your Future

A Guide To Politely Telling People You Don't Know What You're Doing

Last weekend, I walked across the stage at Meyers Sports Complex, received my diploma, and switched my tassel from right to left. Pending a couple transfer classes and passing grades, I'm a college graduate now!

Now comes the deluge of questions: what am I doing next? Do I have plans for the summer? Why don't I have a nice boyfriend yet?

Here's a guide for those of you who don't know what comes next and for those of you who do:

1. "Where are you going to live?"

Sometimes people ask intrusive questions like this, so just give them a (mostly) straightforward answer. For example If you go back to live at home, just tell people you missed your family during college. This is usually true, so it's technically not a lie but is also definitely code for "I have no idea what I'm doing." If you end up living in an apartment, just say you're living on your own.

2. "What are you going to do with your degree?"

If you're going to graduate school, say you're furthering your education with a second degree. (Also, good for you. I hope you do well if you're going to grad school!) If you have a job lined up, that will stave off most of the other questions on this list.

If you're like me and your answer is a bit longer, (I'm going into a postgrad fellowship in August in Pittsburgh with a group of 35 other people), give them as few details as you need or want to. I usually just say "I'm going to a fellowship that will hopefully lead to a job," and that's usually good enough. I am happy to answer people who want to ask me more questions about it, though!

3. "Do you have a job yet?"

Just say yes or no, or "I'm on the lookout, so if you know of any connections, be sure to let me know!"

This is definitely the most annoying one and most anxiety-inducing, especially if you don't have a job lined up right after graduating. It doesn't mean you're worthless or a failure if you don't secure a job within months or even a year. If you have a job lined up, but you don't see yourself doing it as a career, it's okay to look for other things while you are working that current job.

4. "Do you have future plans with "x"? ;)"

Oh maaaaan. I cannot begin to tell you how much I hate being asked this especially as a single woman! I went through all of college without a boyfriend and made it out just fine. (Kudos to those of you who do have boyfriends and made it out just fine too.) If you're in a relationship, from what some of my friends have told me, it can be really annoying to be asked if you're going to marry that person constantly or when the next step is. If you've been dating for only three months, you're not going to know if you're marrying them. It can be a possibility, of course, but both sides need to have the same intentions. When people try to rush someone else's relationship it can have unintended consequences.

There are a lot of other questions you will probably be asked at grad parties or other events, but this starter guide should help you out.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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