In college, they put so much pressure on you, academically and career wise, but also socially. From the first day, they say things like, "This is where you will meet your bridesmaid" or your "forever friends". I have met many people who I thought would be my "forever friends", but for most, something has happened that made us fall out, whether it be differences or a falling out occurred. This has resulted in me becoming super close with my home friends, and I wouldn't trade them for the world.
1. They have known you wayyy longer
People always say that "It's not about when people come into your life, it's about how long they stay and how they impact you," which is true. But people who I have known since I was two, I definitely have more history with and more fond memories of.
2. They know your parents--and you know theirs
My school friends remotely know my parents--maybe they have met them while moving in; some people go out to dinner with their roommate and their families during family weekend or when they come to visit, they take a friend out to dinner with them. But my home friends have always known my parents, and my parents often chat with them when they come over. (Yes the person in the past two photos is the same)
3. They have been to your actual house
In college, it's pretty normal to have your friends over to your dorm, but at home, allowing someone into your house really tells them a lot about you. It shares your family with them, your potential income, what kind of house your parents keep. I know my house is always filled with pictures of us and decorations, while I have friends whose houses look like they're out of a magazine. It's not like it's a huge deal, but it does say something about you much more in-depth.
4. They have been with you through it all
The ugly middle school days, the ex-boyfriends, the backstabbing friends--they have seen it all. And stuck with you in spite of it!
5. They probably like similar things to you
In college, you just kind of grab onto the first person you see and hold on for dear life, hoping it clicks. For most people, it does; 90% of college kids just like to complain about class, express their love for their majors, and go out on weekends. But your home friends, they did sports with you, went away for families weekends, and know literally everyone you do. So, they're probably more similar to you. Most of my friends at home are not big partiers and like going on day-trips, just like me. My college friends are not all like that.
6. You've done more with them
I go away with my home friends--people go away with both, but it's easier to go away with your home friends--your parents trust them, they live locally, and they like the same things you do. Plus, they probably are more inclined the spend their money the same way.
7. They're always down for random adventures
My friends and I text each other when we need to do errands--literally going to the post-office, grabbing coffee or going on spontaneous trips. My school friends do this too, but it's less fun without a car, and at home you're excited to get out of the house.
I love my college friends, but I personally am more confident and successful in my relationships with my "home friends". Can't wait for my kids to call you Aunt or Uncle.
