Creating Your Home Away From Home Is An Important Part Of Growing Up And Becoming An Adult

Creating Your Home Away From Home Is An Important Part Of Growing Up And Becoming An Adult

There will always be positives and negatives that come with everything we do, especially living on our own for the first time.


There's no place like home right?

When the word "home," comes to mind, we all have that one place we can think back to. No matter where we may be living at for that certain period of time, home is home, and no one can change that.

There comes a time in our lives when it's time to pack up all your stuffed animals and move out of mom and dad's house so you can finally start living on your own. When thinking about moving out, it can be really overwhelming. For most of us, our whole life our parents have been the ones who took care of us and made us dinner and made sure everything was in order. But now, you are on your own with nobody to blame or count on but yourself.

Instead of waiting until the very last minute to move out of your parent's house, an easier way to get into the groove of things ahead of time is by moving away for college. When I say "moving away," that doesn't mean that you have to move to a completely different state. Moving away for college can honestly mean moving twenty-miles away from your house. But hey, at least you moved out.

You learn a lot with living on your own. You are now the boss of everything you choose to do. There is no one there to stop you, which can be a good and bad thing.

Let me just warn you all in advance though, you will soon start to appreciate everything your parents have done for you once you have to start buying, cooking, and cleaning everything yourself. This teaches you what it means to be responsible and take actions into your own hands.

This isn't your parent's place now, it's yours, and that should mean something to you.

When you move away for college and are basically forced to live on your own, it's a good way to start planning for your future. You start to notice things you never took into consideration before, like money. When we were younger, we always wanted the most expensive toy or the best car, but most of us never thought about the toll it would take on our parents when they bought it all for us. We finally realize that everything has a price tag on it, and sometimes it's just not worth it.

The first year you are at college, you most likely will be living in a dorm. The dorms are a great way to get a handle on things, and find your groove for how you want to live. It will be very different living with one or more other people you barely know when you are used to living with four or five other people that you have grown up with your whole life.

It will take time getting used to, but in due time, your roommate can become your best friend. This is their first time living on their own too, so you're both in this together.

There will always be positives and negatives that come with everything we do, especially living on our own for the first time. It's how we put forth our effort in making this work that will help us in the long run. Yes, it will be weird sleeping in a different room, on a different bed that first couple of nights, but this is part of growing up.

We all wish we could keep having our parents buy us our food, and wish we could know we were coming back to a clean house, but now it is our turn to do the grown-up things, even though we will always be a kid at heart.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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The Cliche 'Follow Your Heart' Is Probably The Most Important Cliche Of All Time

Our heart or our brain? What should we listen to first?


In life, we are constantly faced with tough decisions concerning relationships, college, career, marriage … the list of decisions we must make in a lifetime is endless. This means, however, that there are plenty of moments in our life where we will put into question our very own intuition, where we will waste time going back and forth between our mind and our soul. So then we ask ourselves when faced with a decision, what do we listen to? What should we listen to? Our brain or our heart?

Yeah, okay so following your heart is probably the most cliche thing you've ever heard. Our younger selves constantly heard the saying all the time growing up. Did we act on it? Maybe, but not in the ways that we should be acting on it now. Give it a chance and just think about it for a second.

I've realized that as you get older, it becomes harder to just listen to yourself. There are distractions all around you. Some come from the comments of your peers, some come from the devices in your hands, some come from the news headlines you see in bold. With this, you find yourself struggling to find a balance between thinking about something and just doing it. You find yourself unable to decipher what exactly you should listen to. You suddenly become lost within your own little world.

Who would you be if you didn't follow your heart? Would your life be completely different than it is now?

If we think about how we got to the place we're at today, we simultaneously also think about those decisions I mentioned earlier. And those decisions were probably mostly made from our own intuition, not from logistical thinking. The sad part is we don't even realize this, and we don't even realize how important this is.

How did you choose a college? Deciding where you're going to spend the next four years of your life, working towards a career is a big deal. Some will describe their decision as a feeling they got when they stepped on campus. Yes, the tuition was a factor along with retention rates and undergraduate programs and study abroad opportunities, but the one factor that truly mattered was how they felt so at home, while in reality being so far away from their hometown. So, this decision was made from a feeling, this decision was made from the heart.

Relationships. When deciding to tell someone you love them, you're following your heart. When deciding to commit to someone in a relationship or in a friendship or whatever it may be, you're following your heart. You're putting everything on the line because of how you feel. Nothing else matters. Just the two of you, together, happy and in love. And because of that, because of the magnitude of that one feeling, you listen to your heart first and figure out everything else later. Now, being able to have that, being able to experience this type of love, well that's just one of the best feelings in the world.

We can even consider a career. When trying to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, you are looking for that feeling, for that career to find you. You are searching for that inevitable inclination telling you, you're meant to do something in this world. You dream big imagining yourself doing this one job that you feel so passionately about, changing the world and inspiring others to do the same. You are motivated by this one field so much that you decide to do it for the rest of your life. If that's not following your heart, then I don't know what is.

It seems so obvious. We hear "follow your heart" all the time. But do we ever actually realize how much impact a heart can have on one's life? No. And that's why it's maybe not so obvious. Because we're told to follow our hearts, but we never actually take the time to comprehend it. And so, we live our lives letting this concept of intuition before cognition become underrated. We let it secretly impact some of our most important life decisions without even ever realizing it.

So realize it. From now on don't just listen. Act. Follow your heart as much as you can and never look back.

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