What Is Home? Where Is Home? Who Is Home?

What Is Home? Where Is Home? Who Is Home?

"You will never be completely at home again because part of your heart always will be elsewhere. That is the price you pay for the richness of loving and knowing people in more than one place."

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I recently stumbled across the quote "You will never be completely at home again because part of your heart always will be elsewhere. That is the price you pay for the richness of loving and knowing people in more than one place." which is written by Miriam Adeney.

As I now finish my first year of college, I truly feel and comprehend its meaning. As summer break approaches, I'm eager to go home. However, I feel disheartened to be leaving the new friends and the new home that I've created at Villanova. Home becomes a vague term once you begin to travel to new places and meet new people. You give a piece of your heart to a multitude of people and places as you live your life. Lately, I've referred to returning to my dorm as returning home. I didn't even realize I'd been slipping into that habit. I'm happy to have found people and a place that I want to give my heart to. I've given Villanova a piece of my heart so as I prepare to depart in two weeks, I do feel sadness.

On the other hand, I'm beyond excited to see my house, my family, my home friends, and the familiarity of the community I grew up in. When my car pulls into the driveway of my house, I feel a sense of comfort. I knock on the door and hear my mom's footsteps running to the door to welcome me back. My heart is truly content as I sit in the car with my best friends on the bridge driving to the beach. This is my childhood. This is the place that shaped me into the person I am. This place is home to the people I grew up with. I remember leaving my high school on graduation day and knowing it would be the last time that my classmates and I would sit all together in one place. A piece of my heart will forever be ingrained here.

Going to summer camp and meeting new people. It's an unforgettable experience and memory to me. In that place, I gave a piece of my heart.

Being a part of the many swim teams that I partake in throughout my life. Those are moments I'd never forget. I gave a piece of my heart to that.

Even to the people I no longer speak to but once were my best friends. Those people were home at a point in my life. They gave me pure joy. I wouldn't take that back for anything. I gave a piece of my heart to that.

Where is home? What is home? Who is home?

Home is so many different places. I love so many different places, people, memories, and moments. I've given a part of my heart to so many things. I may never be completely at home again because of this. However, the price to pay is so worthy. Everything has made me into the person I am now. I'm certain I'll meet even more people and travel to more places in my future. I'm sure that I'll leave a part of my heart with those people and in those places. But how could one be regretful of such a thing? Love is so endless and giving love to such things makes it so that you are never not home.

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'Jane The Virgin' Season Five Made Me Hate Jane

Season five has ruined Jane Gloriana Villanueva.

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SPOILER WARNING: This article contains spoilers for "Jane the Virgin"

Now, for all the super fans left, let me preface this article by saying that I love "Jane the Virgin." The show itself has brought a large piece of Latinx culture to an American audience in a way that is both educational and thrilling. Somehow, the writers of this modern Telenovela managed to find the balance between "soap opera" drama and modern TV drama.

However, while the show itself remains captivating, its main character has lost her luster. In other seasons, Jane proved to be an honest, selfless young woman. One of the prime examples of this is when she tells Michael she is pregnant instead of just accepting his proposal and dealing with the consequences later.

In seasons one through four, Jane was, as expected, caught up in the drama, but she always tried to put others before herself. She was fiercely protective of her mother and abuela as well as her son, Mateo. She was eager to help a struggling Petra, though Petra was nothing but rude to her.

Season five Jane is a different story.

This Jane perpetuates the idea that it is OK to play with someone's feelings, that she is right in dangling a relationship over both Raphael and Michael's heads. She claims that she doesn't know what she feels, that she has feelings for both Raphael and Michael. That she can't just run from her feelings for Michael.

She preaches that "love" is only an emotion. That it is ONLY felt. That because she "feels" something still there with Michael, she must still love him.

Sorry to break it to you Jane, but love isn't just a feeling. Love is a choice. It's a struggle. It's a fight you'll never stop fighting. It's a race you'll never get tired of running or when you do, you'll take a long drink of water and keep going.

Quite frankly, the way in which Jane treats her relationship with both men is emotional abuse. It is not only affecting the adults, but also the children as Mateo begins acting out and Ana and Ellie are convinced Raphael is taking drugs. While toying with the hearts of two men she cares about, she is also placing a wedge between herself and her son.

It seems stupid to be so opinionated about a silly TV show like "Jane the Virgin," but I know what it's like to be the second choice, then the first choice, then second again. Always wondering if you'll be good enough the next time, what you could have done better, how you could be different. Jane's actions in the final season only perpetuate the idea that it's OK to play with someone's emotions and that love is only a feeling. If you don't feel it, you don't have it.

Disclaimer: I am totally Team Raphael (if that wasn't obvious enough in this article), but here's why: Jane and Michael's relationship was based on "feeling." It "felt" magical. Raphael and Jane were not "love at first sight' but grew to love and accept one another. To me, this is the beautiful story. This is the real story of love.

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4 Things To Remember BEFORE Thinking That Jumping Into A Relationship Will Solve All of Your Problems

Contrary to the popular belief.

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Let me start out by saying, I LOVE my boyfriend. He truly is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, and I couldn't imagine my life without him. However, when my single friends come to me complaining about how badly they want to be in a relationship because it will "take all of their problems away", I wish I could explain to them that the reality of being in a relationship just isn't that simple.

1. You can't dump all of your problems on them.

Nor should you! Your significant other is a person with a life, not just a person to rant to all of the time. There will be times when you want to talk to them and they're busy with things going on in their own life, and that's okay. But you shouldn't think that being in a relationship with someone means your problems become their problems.

2. There are some things they can't fix, even if they wanted to.

So maybe you failed an exam and you're really upset about it. Or someone in your family is sick and you're worried about them. Or one of your friends was mean to you and you're mad at them. As much as your significant other might WANT to help, they aren't your fairy godmother. They can give you a big hug and tell you it's all going to be okay, but there are times when that just won't be enough.

3. You are bringing another person into your life.

Having a significant other is like bringing another best friend into your already hectic life. On top of trying to balance all of the relationships you already have, this adds an entire new layer to your life. If you're already overwhelmed and stressed, getting into a relationship might make things even harder on yourself.

4. Your significant other has their own problems.

Your significant other will bring an entirely new set of problems into your relationship, and while they aren't your own, you'll want to support them and be there for them. This means give and take on both ends of the relationship, and sometimes one person has to put in more effort than the other.

In the end, finding a boyfriend or girlfriend can't be the answer to all of your problems. I love my boyfriend and I am so glad he's a part of my life, but unfortunately I've realized that life has it's challenges with or without him by my side. I'm not saying you have to take my word for it, but if you're looking for a relationship that's going to make all of your problems disappear, you might be in it for the wrong reasons.

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