I Hold People And Places Close To My Heart

I Hold People And Places Close To My Heart, There Is Nothing Wrong With That

I know there are people out there who do not understand why I hold people and places close to my heart.


I could start by saying I love people, but I don't think I would be telling the truth if I said that. I would be telling the truth if I said, "I love my people." I am a person of comfort, which sometimes isn't always the best. I will become comfortable with people and places. So comfortable it makes it hard to leave.

I think this could be because I have lived in the same town my whole life. I have had the same people around me my whole life, but as I have gotten older I have met many people from different places. When I had to say "bye" or "see ya later" to people who helped me grow immensely I was a wreck.

Growing up is a part of life.

I know that. I wish I could take 'my' people with me through every stage of life, though. Many people who know me well are already convinced I'm going to be one of the moms who is an absolute wreck when she sends her kid(s) off to school. I love my time with people. It is a rare occasion when I get "sick" of spending time with people. I am an extrovert through and through.

I can remember certain "goodbyes" vividly. That is because they physically hurt. Saying bye to the people who I love dearly, not knowing when I'll see them next was like a punch in the chest. Walking out of a school for the last time as a student crushed me because I held that place so close to my heart. Memories began to flood my mind. I'll always have memories of the places and people I love, which is comforting to me.

I know there are people out there who do not understand why I hold people and places close to my heart. That is okay. I find safety in my people and places. I can go to my people and feel loved and I can go to my places and be reminded of great times. Such as the time I almost went into the boys' bathroom freshman year of high school. Or the random drives through town because we were bored and had nothing else to do.

There will be a day when I won't be around my people all the time. I'm already trying to prepare myself for that. So far, it is not going to well. There will be a day when I won't be able to go five or ten minutes from my house and be at places that have a special place in my heart.

There is nothing wrong with loving others.

Friendships are important. As we get older, it gets harder. We no longer see the same people every day. We no longer see all of our friends walking down the hall. Regardless, I'll always hold my people and my places close to my heart. If you're wondering, there's nothing wrong with that.

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To The Girl Who Always Feels Left Out

Maybe next time...

To the girl who always feels left out,

Girl, let me just tell you, I know the feeling. It feels as though my whole life, I have been that girl. You know that feeling when you are standing in a group of people and someone comes up and asks everyone to go to lunch in that group... But you?

Or they make it even worse by saying "Oh, I guess you can come too." You guess I can come to?

No, thank you.

At that point, you feel like the only reason you are being invited is that they feel like they have to. Which more than likely is actually the case. What about when you ask your friend to hang out and she can't because she will be doing homework all night? However, an hour later, you see her with your other best friend. Oh okay cool, sorry for bothering you with my friendship.

You know you are the girl who is always left out when you are the designated "photographer" or you have to specifically ask if you can take a picture with them because they are obviously done taking pictures and did not want one with you.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who 'Float' Between Friend Groups

We all know "Hey, will you take this picture of us?" all too well. Am I right, ladies? Oh yeah, it is fine. I hate being in pictures. I definitely hate taking pictures to remember this wonderful time I'm having.

What about when you and your friends discuss doing something later during the week and you ask about it but "It's probably not happening anymore." Then you check and would you look at that, your "friends" are having fun without you.


Oh but don't worry about it, I had things to do anyway. You know, clean the house, work on homework that is due next week, binge-watch The Office for the third time this week. Fun stuff. Oh and better yet when you see your friends are hanging out without you. The next time they see you, they talk about how much fun they had.

Oh yes, please tell me about how much fun you had without me. I totally enjoy hearing about how "I totally missed out" and "I should have come." Well, an invite would have been well appreciated. But maybe next time, right? Wrong.

Yeah, I know what you are thinking, "Wow this girl is being so petty." Well if you are thinking that, then you obviously do not know the feeling. And to think about it, you probably are not the one in the friend group who is being left out. So think about who that person is and make them feel included next time. It would be greatly appreciated. You do not know how much of a difference it could make.

Yes, I know everyone feels left out sometimes, but time after time, it starts to get really old. Then after you have to start inviting yourself to hang out with people, you realize well since they are not inviting me themselves, maybe they don't want me here. And then surprisingly, you stop hanging out with them. Hmmm, I wonder what could've possibly happened.

Yes, I know, most people do not do this on purpose. I am sure I have even done it once or twice without realizing it, and I am truly sorry.

From one left out girl to another,

Good Luck

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7 Pros And Cons Of Living Life In A Really, Really Small Town

Small town in Illinois, what a great place to live.


The people who live in a small town know it is nothing like the way Hallmark channel portrays it as, but that is not a bad thing. We learn to enjoy the little things in life and be open to simple ideas. If you grew up in a small town like Woodstock Illinois, you will be able to relate to a few of these things.

1. Dairy Queen is finally open!

If you are from Woodstock, you know the struggle. It is a sad day when they officially close down the Dairy Queen for the winter, and you must resort to another ice cream place. The countdown begins right away, awaiting for the OPEN sign to pop up in the window in February.

And honestly, are you really from Woodstock if you don't go to the dairy queen the first day it opens? I mean, seriously.

2. Bored? Let's go walk around Wal-Mart.

If you are from a small town, in general, you know the struggle of being bored on a Friday night. When you suggest to your friend group about hanging out, usually some form of the phrase "We could go walk around Wal-Mart" is brought up. Piling into your best friend's car and walking around Wal-Mart will truly never get old.

3. Everybody knows everybody.

Coming from a small town with a big family, everyone knows my last name. I swear we cannot go to a restaurant, store, the town pool, or a job without someone knowing someone you are related to. It has its perks, especially when you can get that killer "family discount" for being someone's second cousin or something like that.

4. Easy to get around

I never have to drive farther than 10 minutes to get somewhere in my town. This can be a pro since you will be spending less money on gas. A con? Picking your music choices wisely — very wisely. Many people from a small town know that you have to have that length of driving time covered by the PERFECT playlist, whether it be 2 minutes or 10 minutes.

5. Seeing animals

Listen, you cannot go anywhere in a small town without seeing someone walking their dogs. It is honestly great. In the summer, it is even better when you are walking around town and everyone is willing to let you pet their friendly pup.

Also, you see a lot of wildlife, so I guess that is a perk too.

6. You have to drive at least 30 minutes to get a good restaurant

A small town really does not have anything to eat but a McDonald's, Wendy's, and Subway. Wow, what a FANTASTIC selection. Why can we not get anything good to eat around here?

7. One word: s

I know, I know. It is so cliche to say that the stars are amazing. But, in a small town, the night sky is truly a masterpiece.

Living in a small town may have its cons, but it is one of the best parts of living. Big cities may have more things to do, but small town living is where it is at.

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