After a first date, girls will share all the details with their closest friends. They will share the wonderful things about the guy and maybe things they were not as impressed with. We want a guy who is intelligent, caring, driven, honest and so many more things. Girls want a guy who will love them passionately like Noah from The Notebook. These expectations are unachievable. After meeting someone, sometimes we find out they may be missing one of these things we have on our list of qualities we are looking for. All of us look for different things in a partner. Some of us look for someone who is funny and can make us laugh in any moment, while others are looking for someone who is a good listener and can provide support through hard times. Or maybe you are looking for both!
We get so caught up in finding “Mr. Right.” We want to find the guy that checks all the boxes on our list and someone who is perfect in every way. Then, we get frustrated when these people fall short of our expectations and we feel that the search is hopeless. We also get so caught up in critiquing the people we meet, even in friendship situations, and we lose sight of being the type of person someone else wants to meet. It is important to be “Mrs. Right” (or at least strive towards that) before we can be expecting someone else to display the qualities we are looking for. In my relationships, I often look at how others can be better. What I have found is that when I strive to be “Mrs. Right,” it makes me a better friend, girlfriend, daughter and sister. Gloria Steinem said, “Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person.” If we can focus on being the right person, we will be ready when we find the right person.
I created my own list for myself to pursue in my life so I can hold myself to the high standards I hold others to. I want to be a woman of God and display prayer and purpose. I also want to be honest and open, even when it is hard to tell the truth. I also want to always stay driven. Often while pursuing relationships, we lose sight of the personal goals we have in our lives. I want to go after my dreams, whether I am single, in a relationship or married. I also want to be supportive of others’ goals and aspirations. Finally, I want to be gracious. It is so important to remember that we all have areas we struggle in, but having goals to reach can strengthen our relationships. I want to show grace when others are struggling and help point them in the right direction. I need grace when I fall short, so I want to return that to the people in my life.
