A Highly Sensitive Person Is Going Through More Than You Can Understand

A Highly Sensitive Person Is Going Through More Than You Can Understand

It feels as though you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.

For starters, those that don't know about HSPs, you should definitely take the time to. HSP stands for Highly Sensitive Person and that means that this rare amount of people in the world have a hypersensitivity to external stimuli and have high emotional reactions. Basically, we're emotional as f**k.

It seems normal or somewhat stupid, but it is much more than overreactions and anxiety. Often times people mistake us or label us as "drama queens" or "snowflakes." (Not the political kind). When you discover the truth about what it means to be highly sensitive, then perhaps more people will understand the struggles behind it.

HSP's are very empathetic. We don't just pity people, no, we actually feel the pain and trauma that others go through. It is a very painful and worrisome process. It is hard to turn off the emotions and disconnect with others that are going through stressful situations.

We take everything to heart and make it our own problem. And that is one of the many problems that we face. We connect too much.

Because of this, there are many things in our daily lives that we have to avoid to distance ourselves from the chaos around us. Watching the news is a big one. It is emotionally and physically painful to watch the disorderly world try to function around us. It is also very hard to watch crime shows. We connect too much to the victims in the shows and it becomes too much to bear.

And you best believe that we can not be in crowded rooms, at least not for very long. Being in crowded rooms makes it hard to discern which emotions are yours. You can feel everyone's emotions and it becomes difficult to find yourself in the crowd.

These types of scenarios cause major bouts of anxiety. This also typically means that most people that are considered an HSP are also introverts. They tend to go hand in hand.

It becomes easy for us to carry the burdens of others on top of our own. We empathize so much with others that their baggage becomes our own. It often feels as though we are carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders.

We may cry to things that aren't even that emotional or get upset at certain things that may appear to have no meaning, but we see and feel the sensitivity in everything in the universe. We are so in tune with the world that it sometimes gets to be overwhelming.

This doesn't mean that we are weak as we are often mistaken to be. I feel as though it makes us stronger. We feel the pain in others and bravely wear it on our sleeves.

If you are an HSP, never bring yourself down. You have more to offer and greater stories to tell that hold true value and meaning. This does not define your strength or stability. It simply makes you more connected and grounded. And if you know someone that is an HSP or if this is your first time hearing about it, don't doubt them.

They are going through more than you can understand.

Embrace your sensitivity.

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The Truth About Dating A Girl With An Anxiety Disorder

She knows how annoying she can be, but she just prays you love her regardless of her flaws.


Anxiety: A nervous disorder characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks.

The definition makes it sound really daunting. Truthfully, there is no one way to describe generalized anxiety disorder if you have it. It is hard to live with, hard to cope with and unfortunately, really hard to date with.

Girls with anxiety are different than the average girl when it comes to relationships. That's just an honest statement, no matter how much it hurts me to say it.

We need the constant reminder that you love us, even though we know in our hearts that you do. We panic when you don't answer your phone, in fear that we did something wrong. We care about your feelings when you say that we don't need to worry and we need to be a little calmer. But it's so damn hard.

It isn't easy to love someone who worries about everything 24/7. Half the time, we know we shouldn't be doing the things we do. We know we shouldn't blow up your phone or ask just one more time if you are mad at us. But we can't help it. It says it right in the definition: compulsive behavior due to excessive uneasiness.

Being with a girl with anxiety is probably downright exhausting. It's exhausting for us to have our minds constantly running and worrying. But I promise it's worth it.

We come to you with everything because you are the one person who always knows how to make us feel better. When we are happy, you are the one person we want to be happy with. We all know the constant reassurance, reminders and the same old arguments get old. It gets old to us too.

There was never a time I wanted to have a panic attack because my boyfriend wasn't answering his phone. In my head, I knew where he was because he was usually in the same three places. I knew he wasn't mad at me because I didn't do anything to make him upset. I knew how busy he was with his classes and he was probably studying and I needed to give him space. But the little voice in my head always argued, "What if you did something wrong? What if he's ignoring you because he's angry? What if he's seen your messages and calls, but no longer wants to be with you?" And then I give in. I call, I text, I cry, I panic. Only to feel even worse 10, 30 or 50 minutes later because you answer angrily, telling me what I already knew after I did what I knew I shouldn't have done.

Having anxiety is almost like having a drug addiction. You know all the things that trigger you. You know all the ways to stay away from the bad places in your mind so you don't end up relapsing. But you do anyway and it hurts worse every single time.

Dating a girl with anxiety is as hard as it gets, but she will love you like no other. She is so incredibly thankful for all the things you put up with to be with her. Because she is worried about being loved, she goes the extra mile to always remind you how much you are loved. She always asks if you are ok because she cares about the answer and knows what it's like not to be ok.

The truth is that dating anybody with anxiety is difficult, but it isn't impossible. You get back everything you put in, even though you may not realize it. Trust me, she is sorry for being the annoying, crying, worried, naggy mess and it embarrasses her because she knows better and she wants to be better for you. But please love her. Hold her, understand her, listen to her, calm her, be there for her. In your heart, you know she would turn around and do all the same things for you in a heartbeat.

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A Day In The Life Of A Socially Anxious Person

"I better lower the volume of my phone. Someone sitting next to me might hear what music I'm listening to and judge my song choice."


According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), social anxiety disorder affects 15 million adults in the United States. It is one of the most common mental illness and yet a lot of people don't know what social anxiety disorder (SAD) exactly is and have misconceptions about it. Social anxiety is often misunderstood as shyness. However, SAD goes beyond shyness. For someone with SAD, daily social interactions can be stressful to handle because of fear of negative evaluation and embarrassment.

To eliminate misunderstandings and spread awareness about SAD, here's a picture diary of what a day in the life of a socially anxious person looks like.

8:30 a.m.

"I better hurry and switch off my alarm before my roommate wakes up. I'm afraid she might hate me for waking her up this early."

12:00 p.m.

"I know the answer to this question but I'm too scared to answer. What if it is wrong and I embarrass myself in front of everyone?"

3:00 p.m.

"I better lower the volume of my phone. Someone sitting next to me might hear what music I'm listening to and judge my song choice."

5:00 p.m.

"I better keep practicing my order in my head otherwise I might stumble upon my words and make a fool of myself."

7:00 p.m.

"I am just going to delay answering this call as I'm afraid to answer the phone. I don't know who is on the other side and am not exactly sure what to say."

10:00 p.m.

"I'd rather not sleep, as if I try to, I'll be reevaluating all the embarrassing moments of my day."

Along with these thoughts, a person suffering from SAD might also experience physical symptoms like nausea, dizziness, flushing, palpitations, shortness of breath and tightness in the chest. If your day looks anything like the picture diary above and you have been experiencing physical symptoms, do not be afraid to seek help.

According to a survey conducted by ADAA, 36% of people with social anxiety disorder report experiencing symptoms for 10 or more years before seeking help. If you are someone who is suffering from SAD, always remember that there's hope. Always seek help as social anxiety disorder is treatable through medication and therapy.

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