We all know what high school sweethearts are, some of us believe that they’re the lucky ones. The very few of us that found someone at a young age, maybe even their soul mate?! I don’t speak for everyone but growing up with my parents (who were high school sweethearts) and watching my sister growing up, dating her boyfriend then (who is now her husband, you can take a wild guess that they’re also high school sweethearts).. the ultimate “goal” and I use goal lightly, is to find someone in high school that you’d want to spend the rest of your life with. At least that’s what went through my head throughout high school.

Well here I am, 21 years old and here to tell you that it’s absolutely okay to not be one of those few who’ve had a high school sweetheart. Most of us in high school were still trying to grow up, mature and try to understand that life outside of school is completely different. Aside from trying to find someone who you could potentially spend the rest of your life with. What I have learned is that you can’t force something like that no matter how hard you try, so accept things as they come and as they go. Although high school was a different experience for everyone, some thought it was the highlight of their lives and others just did enough to get through it all.

It’s perfectly okay to grow as a person, understand some things about yourself and others before becoming part of a serious relationship. Even though some of us don’t have those cute and loving stories of being high school sweethearts, it doesn’t make your story any less significant. It especially doesn’t make your relationship any different than theirs, finding “the one” even so your one comes in time and ultimately it comes unexpectedly. Don’t go forcing relationships, hoping that this time it’s right. Nothing good ever comes from forcing things, trust me on this.. I would know. I’ve also come to learn that the best things come unexpectedly, so try to remember that whenever you’re thinking that you need to be in a relationship at this very moment.

High School Sweethearts are incredible and it’s just as great growing up with them, but it’s not meant for everyone to experience. Live your life and enjoy everything that you have, let things fall into place by themselves. Remember not to force things, especially remember that it’s okay to be single at whatever age you’re at. The one will fall into your lap, unexpectedly (just as he did for me). Good luck out there.