*Smartphone vibrates in your pocket with a new notification.*
Notification: New Message.
Message: "Hey sexy"
*Deletes the conversation and blocks the user.*
What if I dared to respond to a message someone sent me that said , "Hey!" rather than, "Hey you, you sexy thing,"? Or, what if, I respond to, "Hey beautiful," or even, "Hey there, gorgeous," over being call 'sexy'?
What if I dared to say that I hate being called sexy? What if I dared to say that I want to be valued for my intelligence and my personality rather than my appearance? What if I dared to be completely honest and admit that I find it degrading to be called sexy? What if I look at my pictures and try to figure out what the perception would be, almost praying the response isn't sexy?
It seems that with online dating, social media and different ads promoting the idea of being sexy that people living in today's world have lost touch with what it really means to really greet someone with a compliment. The sad thing is, no one cares that this isn't okay. Just for a moment, think about this: I'm considered old fashioned because I don't respond to being called sexy. I'm a prude because I hate being told I've got an amazing body in my jeans so I should be a model for Torrid so that people could see me in my underwear. I'm called a grandma because I wouldn't leave my study group to go to a party because I was called a fine piece of creation.
Why should I be defined or judged for one characteristic of who I am?
I am so much more than a pretty face. I am intelligent. I am so much more than a girl with a figure. I am strong and I am confident. I am so much more than something for you to look at. I am constantly doubting myself. I am so much more that what you want to see in a magazine. I am struggling with insecurities.
My goal in life isn't to be sexy or to impress you with my appearance. Don't waste my time trying to get my attention by calling me sexy. It'll go as well as a driving on a dead end street.
