He's Just Not That Into You And That's Okay

He's Just Not That Into You And That's Okay

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He's just not that into you and that's okay.

As much as we females hate to admit it, we get attached relatively quickly. Since we are like this, it leads to unrealistic expectations and high hopes that usually get squandered within a blink of an eye. We know we shouldn't get attached so quickly and some are better at keeping it cool than others, but it's hard to do when you like someone. We aren't thinking about the fact that the guy we might like might not even like us as more than a friend, we're thinking about all the ways they are the right fit.

Most girls who think they have the right guy for themselves start to picture what life would be like with them. Not in the creepy "we're gonna be married and have two kids and live in the suburbs" kind of way. More how they would add value to their everyday life routine. They think he's the guy my parents would be proud I brought home, he's the guy whose is going to push me to do better in life, he's the guy who will find a way to make me laugh after a hard day, or he's the guy I'll never find again, but is he really all of those things and as dreamy as you make him out to be when he treats you the way he does?

The brutally honest answer to this is no.

You make somebody feel something and if you could would you really want to make someone like you? They have to choose you like you chose them. Why put yourself through the hell of chasing after someone who isn't going to let you catch them? You don't deserve the guy who is indecisive and inconsistent. The one who never stops sending you mixed signals. The one who always comes up with excuses. The one who keeps letting you down. You deserve someone who wants you back. As my wise-guy friends have said, if a guy truly likes you he will willingly put in the effort to keep you. So if you're doing all the work, it's a sign he's just not that into you.

So, while it may be hard it's time to let him go. You both deserve happiness and you won't find it making yourselves miserable. Letting go of the idea of him and the hopes you built up in your mind will be hard, but you need to pinpoint when someone is taking you for granted and to know that you're destined for so much more than that. The love you want is out there, don't let him make you believe it isn't. Maybe one day he'll realize just how amazing you are and that will hurt him realizing he was too late as much as it hurt you to move on.

Stop chasing the ones who don't love you back. If you must have them in your life, keep them as your friend and strictly as a friend. If you ever catch yourself wanting to try to move out the friend zone, cut them lose because you don't need more drama and stress in your life. Find the one who will always choose you. Think about how amazing you'll feel knowing you found someone who doesn't make you second guess your feelings because they will continuously choose you and only you. While you should do what is best for you, you'll also be doing what is best for him. He deserves to be happy to and while it might not be with you, he still deserves to find someone who will always choose him as well. There are so many things we as individuals worry about in a day, don't let this "why doesn't he like me back?" thought be one of them.

The right guy is out there. Look at the time spent looking for the right man as an adventure instead of a chore. The best things in life come to those who are open and hopeful. Good luck and good for you for letting go and moving forward with your life!

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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